Well, I am a girl, so I guess I have cooties too.
But the thing is, I’m really shy and ill at ease around other girls, and I have trouble getting close to them.
Thanks to my interests (math; reading and sometimes writing about policy/economics/popular science; lifting; some geekery) I’m often the lone female in a room full of guys. I’m comfortable around men. I like their directness. I can make friends with them pretty easily.
Women, on the other hand, apart from a few close friends, make me nervous. I feel like a lunk around them. I’m not naturally tidy, I’m not physically delicate, and I’m not effortlessly graceful in social situations. I’m a little too blunt – it’s not that I say rude things, because I do want to be nice, it’s that I often don’t know what to say and respond in monosyllables. I can’t be bubbly, I can’t greet everyone with a squeal and hug, and I can’t play cute. With girls, I can never tell the difference between genuine friendliness and polite condescension – does “Nice running into you” really mean that it was nice running into me?
The funny thing is that my mom, my sister, and I are all exactly the same in this regard. We’ve all had trouble with female friendships, and are more at ease around guys. Maybe it’s that we’re all very independent people. I tend to think http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200401/autism-whats-sex-got-do-it this is pop psychology, not science, but to the extent there’s any truth to it, I definitely have a systematic, “male” brain, despite my affection for pretty dresses, cooking, and doo-wop.
Just ranting, I guess, or looking for advice on bonding with girls. Any other women around here feel like this? Any guys have tips for dealing with the fairer sex?