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Girls and Lifting

Does anyone’s girlfriend/fiance/wife feel neglected because of your eating or lifting habits?

I always thought my girlfriend was fine with it until she finally told me that she thought it was kind of rude to be eating like two or three times on nights or days that we get to spend time together. She also revealed to me that she thinks I’m self absorbed because of these habits.

The truth is that I enjoy spending time with her, but I also don’t want to lose the progress I’ve made so far… what are your opinions/experiences?

[quote]phox wrote:
Does anyone’s girlfriend/fiance/wife feel neglected because of your eating or lifting habits?
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no

does she wear makeup? get her hair done? spend alot of time shopping for trendy clothes?

if so, tell her you thinks she’s self absorbed because of these habits…

my opinion? tell her to shut the fuck up…

[quote]phox wrote:
Does anyone’s girlfriend/fiance/wife feel neglected because of your eating or lifting habits?

I always thought my girlfriend was fine with it until she finally told me that she thought it was kind of rude to be eating like two or three times on nights or days that we get to spend time together. She also revealed to me that she thinks I’m self absorbed because of these habits.

The truth is that I enjoy spending time with her, but I also don’t want to lose the progress I’ve made so far… what are your opinions/experiences?[/quote]
Compromise. Eat her 3 times a day, with a pudding made from Metabolic Drive coated on her body.

[quote]phox wrote:
Does anyone’s girlfriend/fiance/wife feel neglected because of your eating or lifting habits?

I always thought my girlfriend was fine with it until she finally told me that she thought it was kind of rude to be eating like two or three times on nights or days that we get to spend time together. She also revealed to me that she thinks I’m self absorbed because of these habits.

The truth is that I enjoy spending time with her, but I also don’t want to lose the progress I’ve made so far… what are your opinions/experiences?[/quote]

My first wife didn’t like my workout habits…and now she’s my ex-wife. My second wife (8years)is very physically fit and works out doing cardio and light weights almost daily.

To me, lifting weights and being healthy is my lifestyle not my hobby. I don’t care if my significant other has the same hobbies as me, but I do want a woman with the same lifestyle as me.

My advice, be selective of who you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

Just my thoughts. Good luck!

Female opinion? She wasn’t drawn to you in the first place because you’re a fat slob. (As much as we hate to admit it, humans are visual, shallow beings) Now, she’s seeing what it takes you to get to the point where she saw you as an attractive “viable” male.
There could be 2 ways of looking at this, IMHO:

  1. She thinks you are attractive, hence you get to sleep with her. She hates the thought of other females finding you attractive, thereby running the risk of you wanting to sleep with them. So, she wishes to makes you less attractive to the non-alpha females. (Also known as “Here, Hold My Purse” Syndrome.) This is the female equivalent of pissing pheramones on your leg, and hopefully is not the case.

  2. She’s jealous of the weights. Some girls want your undivided attention. I know! It’s shocking! I’m going to venture that she doesn’t lift seriously, so she probably wouldn’t have perspective of the dedication you feel to the gym. Perhaps, if you tell her what it means to you, she may get an inkling. There is a misconception amongst some prols- sorry, non-lifters- that gyms are where you go to bring meat home. Explain to her why you’re really going.
    If she isn’t a total, well, you know, she’ll be OK with it and support you in doing something you love. Hell, she may even develop an interest! :slight_smile:

[quote]yellowcap wrote:
Female opinion? She wasn’t drawn to you in the first place because you’re a fat slob. (As much as we hate to admit it, humans are visual, shallow beings) Now, she’s seeing what it takes you to get to the point where she saw you as an attractive “viable” male.
There could be 2 ways of looking at this, IMHO:

  1. She thinks you are attractive, hence you get to sleep with her. She hates the thought of other females finding you attractive, thereby running the risk of you wanting to sleep with them. So, she wishes to makes you less attractive to the non-alpha females. (Also known as “Here, Hold My Purse” Syndrome.) This is the female equivalent of pissing pheramones on your leg, and hopefully is not the case.

  2. She’s jealous of the weights. Some girls want your undivided attention. I know! It’s shocking! I’m going to venture that she doesn’t lift seriously, so she probably wouldn’t have perspective of the dedication you feel to the gym. Perhaps, if you tell her what it means to you, she may get an inkling. There is a misconception amongst some prols- sorry, non-lifters- that gyms are where you go to bring meat home. Explain to her why you’re really going.
    If she isn’t a total, well, you know, she’ll be OK with it and support you in doing something you love. Hell, she may even develop an interest! :)[/quote]

I’v been finding my wife becoming more and more understanding. She hates it when I drop under 12% BF (?) and she hates it when I am over 200lbs (im now 230lbs) .

She understands why I do it and I make sure I dont loose time with the family to work out . Best advice I can offer is make sure you support and show intrest in her activities ( my wife is a dancer yuc) and she will (probably) in turn show intrest/support in yours.

Bean

Thanks for all of the advice everyone…we talked it over.It’s mostly a mixture of her insecurities and her thinking I’m doing it just to impress other people, which it’s not.

I mean, she’s seen my progress from a girl-like runt to what would be normal build in testosterone standards, and she’s scared of me running off with another girl; hence, the whole insecurity thing. If she thinks this is the reason, and that I devote a lot of my time to this made-up reason, then you can see where the problem came in to play.

[quote]phox wrote:
Thanks for all of the advice everyone…we talked it over.It’s mostly a mixture of her insecurities and her thinking I’m doing it just to impress other people, which it’s not.

I mean, she’s seen my progress from a girl-like runt to what would be normal build in testosterone standards, and she’s scared of me running off with another girl; hence, the whole insecurity thing. If she thinks this is the reason, and that I devote a lot of my time to this made-up reason, then you can see where the problem came in to play.[/quote]

Alot of it will come with time as well, I dont think you mentioned how long you’ve been together . Trust takes a long time to REALLY build up despite what your s/o says.

Give it time and maby even try to include her as well.

[quote]bboybean wrote:
phox wrote:
Thanks for all of the advice everyone…we talked it over.It’s mostly a mixture of her insecurities and her thinking I’m doing it just to impress other people, which it’s not.

I mean, she’s seen my progress from a girl-like runt to what would be normal build in testosterone standards, and she’s scared of me running off with another girl; hence, the whole insecurity thing. If she thinks this is the reason, and that I devote a lot of my time to this made-up reason, then you can see where the problem came in to play.

Alot of it will come with time as well, I dont think you mentioned how long you’ve been together . Trust takes a long time to REALLY build up despite what your s/o says.

Give it time and maby even try to include her as well.
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It’s about two years now we’ve been together… the first year where I never lifted seriously and was skinny… and the second in which I turned my life around. We’re pretty good on the trust thing…but every once in awhile something stupid like this comes up, and then soon after it goes back to being normal again. Everything’s great, but like I said, every road has its bumps.