[quote]debraD wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]debraD wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I will add that most of my friends - and all of my close friends - are women and I find them honest and caring.
Over the years I’ve had a couple of male friends outside of work, where professional boundaries are protective, but my sense has been that they would have made a move if there was an opening. When I’m in a relationship I value that far more than hanging out with single guys. Which I guess I don’t do regardless, now that I think of it. Just the ones I want to have relationships with.
I think women who have both male and female friends because they have things in common with both are fine. I don’t trust women who lump their entire gender into a negative category, however, and particularly the feminine ones, who are usually the “other women are all bitches” types. I’m inclined to wonder if other women are unpleasant because our special self-described “tomboy” is perpetually attention-seeking from attached men.[/quote]
I’d say most of my friends have been men. Mostly because my work has generally been with almost all men. The mix is changing as my career is evolving and as a result there are more women in my circle.
That said, I don’t tend to gel with a lot of women but not because anyone is bitchy. I know the sentiment you are meaning though Em and have heard it before, and I have struggled with my own misogyny and that certainly doesn’t help with female relationships. For the most part however, now that I’ve matured, it’s a matter of relating through humour, interests, conversational subject matter, pop culture and political views. Not saying we have to agree but we have to be able to disagree and still be ok. Also a lot of women I’ve met want too much from me in terms of relationship guidance and intimate conversations about stuff that I don’t have too much interest in. I do like to be alone more than many women I’ve met have been able to abide by. I know a lot of woman who are great people, very caring but I do not enjoy having lunch with because I don’t want to talk about having kids or husband woes. I also have a quirky (if you can call it that) sense of humour that a lot of women don’t seem to find very funny and I think I get on their nerves I work closely with a woman right now who does get me and it’s great because we can goof off on a whole new level since we are both in the same vote with the sausage fest and the sausage fest puts a lot of constraints on interactions this is very refreshing for both of us. Now we can go to a pub and get nearly hosed together occasionally and have a ball without worrying about male/female relations. We are so different in many ways too.
There are women I enjoy very much and I usually meet them through work. Somehow it attracts like-enough minds? They are just few though.
A bunch of the women in my family are the similar to me, humour wise and it’s a good time when we get together. But some people find it hard to take. Women who marry into the family seem to be a bit unsettled by us and have a hard time fitting in.
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Maybe I’m crazy and would right get on your nerves, but I think you and I would have incredible fun together at a pub. Different though we are. [/quote]
I definitely think so! (On the latter point that we’d have incredible fun that is!)[/quote]
Am I speaking Cockney now? Get right on your nerves, that is. But hopefully not! Hopefully I would right be a good time!