Hey so my girlfriend of 5 years whom I love very much is really pushing to get married. Yesterday. That kind of pressure. Keep in mind we are both 24. Have had some ups and downs in our relationship. We share a dog, apartment and a lot of other random shit. Not that that really matters in this.
To those who have been in the situation of not wanting to get married, what’s the play here. It has gotten to the point of an ultimatum almost of marry her or be single.
I just don’t want to get married right now. It’s not her, it’s just the activity. I don’t wanna.
TL:DR GF of 5 years wants to get married ASAP, I don’t. Thoughts?[/quote]
Be a real man and let her go.
Or be a real man and marry her.
But stringing her along is not honorable. 24 is old enough to be married.[/quote]
He isn’t stringing her along…he said he would be willing to propose within the next year. Besides, what does age have to do with anything? Just because someone is ready at 24 doesn’t mean someone else is: age is irrelevent in this context.
To the OP, I would suggest trying to figure out the deeper reason why she is pressuring you to get married. It is most likely the insecurity of not knowing when the next step will be: but as you already implied, you have already told her you would be willing to propose within the next year, and she want’s a more “solid answer.”
If anything, just re-enforce the notion that you are completely dedicated to her, and you want to make sure that you have all your ducks lined up before you propose, because it is not something you take lightly: just make her feel that everything you’re doing is for her benefit, and try to make her feel as secure about the decision to hold off as possible.