I'd like some feedback, everybody, cause I've been dating this girl for several months now and the thing we fight about most is my need for space and acceptance of my lifestyle, pretty much. Keep in mind, though, I never start these fights, but they begin like so:
I love training and try to get to the gym everyday save for the days I'm too busy. I'm in a masters in teaching program and we are very very busy (internship in the morning, and class for several hours right after). I manage to get to the gym regularly, though. Almost everyday (later at night).
My GF is also in this same program. Now, every time I go to the gym it's a big ordeal. I "don't want to spend time with" her and she gives me a huge attitude for doing this. It puts a great damper on this aspect of my life because it's something I NEED to do to be happy. She can't understand that.
I'm also an introvert and really do enjoy time alone. I'm not saying I want to BE alone, I just really need alone-time to "recharge my batteries." Too much social contact actually drains my energy! Being "on" for long periods of time is taxing for me, and I work in a darn school with kids (I'm "on" for a good portion of the day)! This also includes time spent with others--I enjoy it, just not every minute of every day. She can't understand that.
Am I the one who is wrong? Should I want to spend all of my free time with her? Should I want to give up training regularly just so she can satisfy her clinginess? Personally I think it's her who needs to "ease up" a bit and give me the space I need to do the things I like to. If she were into training, we'd do it together and it'd be great, but that's not the case.
What am I to do, guys? She's very needy, and I just can't give myself up for that kind of intensity--not anymore (I've had a similar relationship and it was the worst one I'll ever have).
Thanks in advance!