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Girl Friend Getting Fat, A Tale of Horror and Despair


Over the summer (In Australia) I met this Dutch back packer and dated her for a period of 8 weeks

when I first met her she was 23 an about 62kgs 5’8 D cup tits nice tight perky ass
After hanging out with her for the first week I noticed she would binge on carbs like a starving horse. This habit concerned me the first time I noticed it. Often she would eat a whole baking tray of potatoes for lunch, huge bowls of oats and pasta for breakfast and dinner.

at about week 3 I confronted her in a polite way about this habit stating it was dangerous to eat that much, she was all like “no no I never get fat, I can eat what I want” I rolled my eyes and hoped deep down that it was true

week 4
I noticed she had gotten a little bit thicker around the belly, one morning in the bath room I weighed myself then jokingly (planned) I said she should way herself she laughed and hopped on to the scale. 65kgs ! she was like wow thats weird i’m usually around 60kgs. My heart sunk, my suspicions had become reality. I said maybe she should try to eat less until she went back to her normal weight, she glared at me like I had stuck a finger in her ass.

Week 6
The eating continued at a brutal pace, milk shakes chocolate etc, carbs carbs carbs. she was starting to not look good naked in full light, I was panicking on the inside, I had to say something and get her to stop eating so much and start working out. I thought about it long and hard, the best wording choice, the best time of the day. I approached her in the kitchen while she was cooking a large meal of baked potatoes, I started by talking about how I am a combat athlete and have been for 6 years and you know I have a lot of knowledge about foods and exercise, to attain my credibility in giving advice, I then stated that at her current rate she would continue to put on large amounts of fat and that she should please stop eating so much and maybe I could train her a few times a week. She told me to fuck off and was like " ill eat what I fucking want its my body blah blah blah" I walked away with sadness in my heart.

Week 7
It was do or die time, I couldn’t take it any more she had become unattractive while naked now, that beautiful body destroyed by the weakness of her mind, I was mad ! I came at her, aggressively, every time she would cook id say its to much and you are ignorant, and even said she was getting fat a few times and that her eating habits disgusted me which would result in abusive arguments, I didn’t care I knew it was going to be over soon either way, I had tried being nice now I was going for broke, none of my abusive comments made a difference if anything she ate more just to spite me

Week 8
I made her weigh herself, 71kgs !!! she made a stupid comment about the scale being broken, I knew I was dealing with a crazy person at this stage… I got the fuck out with only a few memories of that once beautiful body and the wonderful sex we shared, now all that was left was a fat chick with a fucked up attitude and a kitchen filled with carbs. I said that I didn’t want to see each other any more and stated that I think our lifestyles are not compatible

Any body else had to deal with watching a pretty girl destroy themselves with food ?

This experience has freaked me out about getting married and having kids with a girl, because in this situation we were only dating nothing serious, if you loved the person and had a life and children with them it was be even more stressful and sad to watch your love go from hot to fat/unattractive

Any ideas on how you would go about approaching this situating ?

Superglue.

lol

Beat em at their own game?

Dude, what the fuck is wrong with you?

Lolllllllllll.

This is one of my great fears as well.

My advice:

  1. Don’t get married.

or

  1. Only date women with a freakish set of genetics and/or work ethic.

[quote]Judas wrote:
at about week 3 I confronted her in a polite way[/quote]

Yeah, that’s how it starts.

[quote]week 4
one morning in the bath room I weighed myself then jokingly (planned) I said she should way herself she laughed and hopped on to the scale. 65kgs ! [/quote]

Nicely executed plan bro.

[quote]Week 6
I approached her in the kitchen while she was cooking a large meal of baked potatoes, I started by talking about how I am a combat athlete and have been for 6 years and you know I have a lot of knowledge about foods and exercise, to attain my credibility in giving advice,[/quote]

True, a meal of baked potatoes just sounds WRONG.

[quote]Week 7
I was mad ! I came at her, aggressively… I had tried being nice now I was going for broke, none of my abusive comments made a difference if anything she ate more just to spite me [/quote]

Sounds like she fought fire-with-fire, imagine that

[quote]Week 8
I made her weigh herself, 71kgs !!! she made a stupid comment about the scale being broken, I knew I was dealing with a crazy person at this stage… [/quote]

True, except it might not be who u think it is…

That all depends on whether you actually care about the chick, or not. (and it sure sound like you didn’t)

To be clear, OP, I enjoyed the heck out of your post.

From the “brutal pace” of eating to your heart sinking, it was entertaining throughout…

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[quote]chillain wrote:

[quote]Judas wrote:
at about week 3 I confronted her in a polite way[/quote]

Yeah, that’s how it starts.

[quote]week 4
one morning in the bath room I weighed myself then jokingly (planned) I said she should way herself she laughed and hopped on to the scale. 65kgs ! [/quote]

Nicely executed plan bro.

[quote]Week 6
I approached her in the kitchen while she was cooking a large meal of baked potatoes, I started by talking about how I am a combat athlete and have been for 6 years and you know I have a lot of knowledge about foods and exercise, to attain my credibility in giving advice,[/quote]

True, a meal of baked potatoes just sounds WRONG.

[quote]Week 7
I was mad ! I came at her, aggressively… I had tried being nice now I was going for broke, none of my abusive comments made a difference if anything she ate more just to spite me [/quote]

Sounds like she fought fire-with-fire, imagine that

[quote]Week 8
I made her weigh herself, 71kgs !!! she made a stupid comment about the scale being broken, I knew I was dealing with a crazy person at this stage… [/quote]

True, except it might not be who u think it is…

That all depends on whether you actually care about the chick, or not. (and it sure sound like you didn’t)

[/quote]

How exactly would you go about doing it?

[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
Dude, what the fuck is wrong with you?[/quote]

what do you mean ?

[quote]165StateChamp wrote:
Lolllllllllll.

This is one of my great fears as well.

My advice:

  1. Don’t get married.

or

  1. Only date women with a freakish set of genetics and/or work ethic. [/quote]

haha yea I’ve been screening for athletic woman or gym chicks, all about those good habits aye, got to make sure they are already in place

[quote]chillain wrote:

[quote]Judas wrote:
at about week 3 I confronted her in a polite way[/quote]

Yeah, that’s how it starts.

[quote]week 4
one morning in the bath room I weighed myself then jokingly (planned) I said she should way herself she laughed and hopped on to the scale. 65kgs ! [/quote]

Nicely executed plan bro.

[quote]Week 6
I approached her in the kitchen while she was cooking a large meal of baked potatoes, I started by talking about how I am a combat athlete and have been for 6 years and you know I have a lot of knowledge about foods and exercise, to attain my credibility in giving advice,[/quote]

True, a meal of baked potatoes just sounds WRONG.

[quote]Week 7
I was mad ! I came at her, aggressively… I had tried being nice now I was going for broke, none of my abusive comments made a difference if anything she ate more just to spite me [/quote]

Sounds like she fought fire-with-fire, imagine that

[quote]Week 8
I made her weigh herself, 71kgs !!! she made a stupid comment about the scale being broken, I knew I was dealing with a crazy person at this stage… [/quote]

True, except it might not be who u think it is…

That all depends on whether you actually care about the chick, or not. (and it sure sound like you didn’t)

[/quote]

I care about:

  1. the way she looks
  2. if she is a nice person with positive habits
  3. if she has good chemistry with me and satisfys my needs as a man

In this case she didnt have 1 and 2 so it didnt work out

[quote]Judas wrote:

I care about:

  1. the way she looks
  2. if she is a nice person with positive habits
  3. if she has good chemistry with me and satisfys my needs as a man

In this case she didnt have 1 and 2 so it didnt work out[/quote]
The fact that you’re the kind of small, insecure little man that’d post this shit and her picture online didn’t help either I imagine.

But she is right. It’s her body, it’s her, and no one else’s, business what she eats or stops eating. While you can help, suggest, support, etc. in the end she’s the only deciding everything that is about her body.

What you can do, however, and probably what you should do, is walk away from her because there’s a serious conflict of values/compatibility. That’s the only thing you have control over : Walking away.
Will she get skinny again once she’s single? Maybe, but that’s not your business anymore.

You need to find someone who shares the same enthusiasm when it comes to nutrition or you’ll be facing these issues over and over.

Mind that I somehow empathize with you.

[quote]Edevus wrote:
But she is right. It’s her body, it’s her, and no one else’s, business what she eats or stops eating. While you can help, suggest, support, etc. in the end she’s the only deciding everything that is about her body.

What you can do, however, and probably what you should do, is walk away from her because there’s a serious conflict of values/compatibility. That’s the only thing you have control over : Walking away.
Will she get skinny again once she’s single? Maybe, but that’s not your business anymore.

You need to find someone who shares the same enthusiasm when it comes to nutrition or you’ll be facing these issues over and over.

Mind that I somehow empathize with you.
[/quote]

Good advice
thanks

[quote]Edevus wrote:
But she is right. It’s her body, it’s her, and no one else’s, business what she eats or stops eating. While you can help, suggest, support, etc. in the end she’s the only deciding everything that is about her body.

What you can do, however, and probably what you should do, is walk away from her because there’s a serious conflict of values/compatibility. That’s the only thing you have control over : Walking away.
Will she get skinny again once she’s single? Maybe, but that’s not your business anymore.

You need to find someone who shares the same enthusiasm when it comes to nutrition or you’ll be facing these issues over and over.

Mind that I somehow empathize with you.
[/quote]

Pretty much this. It’s not your job to make her have the body you want, it’s your job to have the body she wants.

If she’s too lazy to make an effort for you, then nuts to her.

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/dentist-pulls-her-ex-boyfriend-teeth-split-210829769.html

9kgs (so 20 pounds) in 8 weeks?

Really?

[quote]Bambi wrote:
9kgs (so 20 pounds) in 8 weeks?

Really?[/quote]

Yes

[quote]Makavali wrote:

[quote]Edevus wrote:
But she is right. It’s her body, it’s her, and no one else’s, business what she eats or stops eating. While you can help, suggest, support, etc. in the end she’s the only deciding everything that is about her body.

What you can do, however, and probably what you should do, is walk away from her because there’s a serious conflict of values/compatibility. That’s the only thing you have control over : Walking away.
Will she get skinny again once she’s single? Maybe, but that’s not your business anymore.

You need to find someone who shares the same enthusiasm when it comes to nutrition or you’ll be facing these issues over and over.

Mind that I somehow empathize with you.
[/quote]

Pretty much this. It’s not your job to make her have the body you want, it’s your job to have the body she wants.

If she’s too lazy to make an effort for you, then nuts to her.[/quote]

Yea i’m lean and fit and healthy spend a large amount of time exercising and watch my diet, I just couldn’t deal with some one who was so ignorant about what they were doing to their body, she was acting like it wasn’t happening and she would never get fat, so delusional