Some background information--We're both mid to late 20's, been seriously together for around 9 months, friends for much longer than that. We have our ups and downs just like anyone else, but we're very much in love, treat each other right, and generally maintain a very healthy relationship.
When we first started dating, sex was very frequent--just about every time we saw each other. It was OK at first, then it got good, and then as we really got to know each other and figured out all the little kinks it became great, the best I've ever had. It was right about that time also that our "honeymoon" period started to fade and we really began to settle into the relationship.
Lately sex has been more like once a week, twice a week rarely--keep in mind that we're still seeing each other every single day and def spend ~5 nights a week sleeping next to each other. I've gotten to the point where I hate to even initiate it anymore because more often than not I get shut down and then there's this unspoken tension in the room as we lie next to each other. A lot of it has to do with her insecurities about her body. She doesn't have the most positive self image when it comes to that. She doesn't like being on top because it makes her uncomfortable and she feels "ugly", ect. ect. Which is not the case at all. She's a pretty fit girl. Goes to the gym and lifts--squats, deadlifts, all that good stuff. Goes to yoga multiple times/week. And this is not to take away anything from when we DO have sex, because it still is absolutely amazing for both of us, no doubt in my mind.
I just find myself wanting it more than once a week. Wanting her to initiate it and come on to me. It just seems like it has become this big production that takes an hour, two hours even to completely warm her up, do it, and then shut it back down and get back to reality. And as I said up there ^^ I love it and that is absolutely the greatest sex I've had in my life, but sometimes it's like shit, can we not just get a quickie in, ya know?
Dunno, It's been forever since I've been in a relationship of this level. For years it's just been a string of 1 month, 2 month, more casual type stuff. I mean it's expected for things to level out a bit, but what do you guys think? Am I crazy for wanting to keep that fire going?