[quote]josh.shafer wrote:
yorik wrote:
Rockscar wrote:
yorik wrote:
Rockscar wrote:
OK, now that I’ve thrown this little bomb out there, you can all flame away and criticize me using the very same stuff that you were taught by AA itself.
No, you are entitled to your opinion.
But, do you have experience in the AA “cult”? or a personalized program at that?
I’ve seen guys 25 years sober go out and in a week end up in jail for killing someone.
I started out with an Al-Anon program somebody suggested for me about 15 years ago when my girlfriend was doing crack. I knew in my gut there was something odd with the program from the first meeting, so I started researching it and reading up on psychology, addiction and programs.
(BTW, it turns out all I needed to do was kick her out of the house for good. Problem solved. No more meetings.)
Lately I’ve been reading up on the psychology of success, which is not well studied. (If you’re successful you obviously don’t talk to psychologists, do you?) I think teaching addicts how to be successful, healthy people instead of dealing with their deficiencies is area that could have a lot of promise.
I think a guy who is 25 years sober should stop calling himself an alcoholic and start emphasizing his success in life. It’s an NLP thing.
I’ve lately decided to investigate some positive individual therapy myself which is all success oriented, not failure oriented.
Alcoholics have a compusion of the mind coupled with a physical “allergy” to alcohol. If someone who was 25 years sober chose to quit going to meetings because he was a “success”, there is a chance he would drink again, triggering the physical alergy. Meetings and helping other recovered drunks is what keeps alcoholics sober. [/quote]
Bullshit. The only reason there is “a chance” is because AA has programmed him that way.
In fact, he’s now addicted to the meetings instead. Think about it; the AA member has no power, he HAS to go to the meetings. You say the meetings are not an addiction? That means you’re in denial, aren’t you? They say you can never leave AA without bad consequences? Sounds like a cult to me.
Hold on a second…What does success have to do with drinking? Not one damn thing. Success is about mastering your own destiny. Nobody ever said an alcoholic should drink again, and I sure don’t recommend it.
[quote]Your choice of words proves that you know nothing about the nature of addiction. This isn’t winners and losers, this is chemistry, psychology, spirituality, and cold hard facts.
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Mastering your life is about winning big time. Being an alcoholic for the rest of your life is about being a loser for the rest of your life.
You just repeat what you’re told at AA meetings. Like a good boy.
Yes, I know about liver enzymes, tetrahydroisoquinaline (THIQ), and fatty acid deficiencies, all of which are the physical, chemical mechanisms which cause true physical alcoholism, which is actually relatively rare. All of which are manageable through physical treatment.
Why the hell you would “treat” a physical problem with the psychology of failure I still don’t understand. Mixing chemistry and psychology is like mixing beer and liquor. (Sorry, bad analogy.)
I take that back. For many people it works, so in a lot of ways it’s good. Especially when you’re just starting out.
But I stand by my statement that if you’ve been sober for 25 years, you’re no longer a “recovering alcoholic” and you need to stop being addicted to the negative stigma and negative words; you’re a damn strong successful person who has mastered his/her life and will continue to do so.
Rip that negative alcoholic label off your forehead and live your life as a positive masterful person. (Well, only if you ARE sober.)
Better yet, do what works FOR YOU. My only concern is that 12 Step programs are negatively oriented, and the power of positive psychology is so much more, well, powerful.
I just wanted to get people thinking and challenge the status quo. You are now free to rip me a new one.