It hurts my feelings that they won’t be polite back if I don’t want to go by their personal feelings as to what a woman is. They are still free to disagree with me.
The intent is not to hurt or harm, it’s merely to bw accurate.
Heh - sorry, I consider the postmodern view of (no such thing as) truth to be in the same philosophical camp of phrenology. If we can’t stipulate that truth exists, I’ve got nothing for you.
I have no doubts the vast majority of these situation involve sincere feelings. But feelings so not determine truth. A person might have a sincere feeling that they can fly, but that feeling doesn’t change the fact that if they jump off a cliff, they will instead plummet to the ground.
I don’t think Swedish is limited to Nordic, as Swedish is commonly understood.
They can tell you it bothers them when you intentionally/deliberately/knowingly use a pronoun they don’t want you to.
They aren’t asking you to agree with them. If a man was named Mary would you call him something else because you thought his name was for females only? Does calling him Mary mean you don’t think it’s a woman’s name anymore?