In my opinion, there’s some very understandable arguments and observations, however there’s equally some things that can really be argued.
I think the majority of folks who are on the side of defending the fluidity of gender/sex aren’t completely wrong, and also aren’t completely right. On the chromosomal/Biological level, you cannot, in any conceivable way, try to mix a fluid standpoint on something as hard fixed as how the human chromosomes naturally align themselves. That goes for cutting off body parts, Testosterone/Estrogen replacement, or any other surgery. I mean, you can undergo those processes, but your chromosomes will forever be lined up accordingly during whatever stage of Meiosis/Mitosis or what you, for either male sex parts, or female sex parts (e.g penis/accompanying testes, or vagina/accompanying breasts). I would like to say that the ability to reproduce naturally does impact my opinion on that as well.
As mentioned earlier: despite rare mutations, and genetic exceptions, but I’m talking about the masses/majority.
From the social concepts, I understand where people are coming from. Concepts typically associated with men, and with women are rather fluid dependent on quite a few factors, by they can also have an “Essence” Tied respectfully to either men or women, but Once again, I think it’s unique to each group of people, or to societal cultures. Even in cultures around the world, or more older/ancient cultures. Things like aggression, submission, strength, intelligence, clothing choices, hair length, job selection, gender roles, etc. That much I can agree on, even though I like to stay in neutral because there’s no way I can really ever be definitive. Especially in the postmodern era and technology era where masses of people are able to pursue a large variety of different things.
How do I identify? Well naturally speaking I’m a woman. If asked how I identify I say I’m a woman but I also say, “Im just me”. And leave it at that. I do have Fully functioning lady parts, but concerning society I could care less. I’m attracted to males by a landslide, but I have had, and probably still do have an inclination for women. I find them to be very beautifully crafted. Myself included. Personal convictions, and my own reasoning have lead to mostly me being sexually oriented and gravitating towards men though. I don’t hold the notion that a woman has to be the standard long haired, soft-skinned, pink wearing, dainty, house-cleaning, unequally dubbed to supervise the children 24/7, lower income earning, shallow, dense-headed, image of what most of society think women should be.
Just drawing from my own personal life, most notably my marriage, I think most folks would scoff and shake their head at the “gender roles” and dynamics of my marriage. My husband is very kind natured, soft spoken, kid oriented, and very kept to himself. He’s very smart, likes to tinker with things, and doesn’t really care for things other men would dub “manly”. He will do them if it’s needed for work, but it isn’t something he’d do in his spare time. He’s very into the Fine arts, and music, and even “womanly things”, like haircare, skincare, sewing, etc. That doesn’t make him any less of a man in my eyes. I’m rather rough around the edges, quiet, don’t know what to do around small children, work oriented, and the thought of being a house wife makes me want to dive face first onto the concrete. I’m fascinated with things that are dubbed “manly”, and I’m quick to do shit outside and sweat and try to cut a tree down if I end up with enough time on my hands. But I’m absolutely thankful and completely absorbed in observing and loving the dynamics of our marriage and how it grows as we get older. We both accept each other as we are, and however we feel on any given day. I wear Men’s T-Shirts, jeans, and whatever shoes I decide to wear because it’s comfortable. In highschool I tried to squeeze myself into that dainty, girly-esque, idea of what femininity is thought to be. Didn’t really work out for me.
Femininity to me: is being a mentally, physically, and emotionally strong woman, while simultaneously not being afraid to cater to what allows a woman to feel comfortable, feel invincible, and feel as though she has a place and purpose on this planet. Same for what Masculinity means to me.