I think it depends on what you refer to as “gay bashing”. If someone finds that the act of two men having anal sex as sickening, I don’t find that as bashing anyone. If two men can kiss each other in the light of day on any city street in America, then certainly two other heterosexual men have the right to comment on it by describing the act as “sick”. And that should be as far as it goes. I do not call that bashing. I call it freedom of expression on both couples parts.
Comments like that are simply commentary on how one person feels about the act of homosexuality. should a person remain silent when he is offended, in order not to offend? If, however, one were to state, “I would like to smash that queer in the face because I hate all homo’s”. That would be gay bashing. As it implys the threat of violence and also a desire to prevent the two gay men from performing their act.
As the Homosexual lifestyle becomes more “in your face” and less in the closet you are going to experience a natural backlash, as most males are “straight” and many feel uncomfortable regarding the homosexual act. Do not imply that they are closet homosexuals “sitting around your frat house wanting each others ass”. As that statement is just as stereotypical as “all homosexuals are sissys”.
Commenting on what can be considerd by some as abhorrent behavior is a natural response to what repels them. I am sure that you will hear much of this sort of expression in bars, restaurants, home social gatherings and yes, on message boards.
Is this unnatural? Not at all! In fact, it would be unnatural for a heterosexual to embrace the lifestyle of the homosexual. Hence, you will always be reading comments from some of the T-Men regarding homosexuals. As long as there is no threat of violence or prevention of the homosexual act then there is nothing wrong with it. Remember, tolerance is not acceptance! And in fact one can argue that homosexuals are not very tolerant of those who comment openly and above board regarding their their lifestyle.
Tolerating the homosexual is not welcoming the lifestyle or the act. It simply means “to allow to be, or to be done without preventing such”. Toleration does not mean acceptance. Acceptance means “to receive or agree to willingly”. Far to many have confused the two in pushing toleration of the homosexual lifestyle. I think their should be toleration regarding the homosexual. However, I do not accept the lifestyle.
As we are on the topic: The term “homophobic” has been used inappropriately since its inception. Phobia denotes fear. The implication is that some straight men “fear” homosexuals so they verbally attack them. while this may be true with a small minority of straight men. In many cases I think it is more that most straight men find the homosexual act so repugnant that they feel a need to express themselves vehemently. This is not “homophobia” as much as it is “homorepugnancy”. If someone states “the homosexual act makes me sick”. Are they afraid of the homosexual? I think more they are expressing an extreme opposition to the act, which seems justifyable as a reasonable means to express themselves. And in fact far better they do this, than try to contain this need and then having it explode in violence against homosexuals.
As to your post. It seems to me filled with intensly bitter statements. Some describing how certain of your homosexual friends are strong and good enough fighters to beat the hetersexuals who post on the board. You even go into detail regarding the placing of someones foot up anothers buttocks. You go on to state that your homosexual friends could “break both your arms”.
Finally, you state “if you have a problem with the gay lifestyle, fine keep it to yourself”. You had a problem with straight men commenting negatively on gay men. Did you keep it to yourself?
Does your “straight bashing” make sense? especially in light of the fact that you are attacking others for allegedly gay bashing? Are we now to think that you are an “ignorant asshole”? To use your own words. Or, are you merely venting in a place where you know it is safe to do so?
People will continue to speak out regarding the gay lifestyle. And I think that is healthy. Those who oppose even the mildest tone of such commentary are not being realistic or tolerant of other views on a very controversial subject. Ironically, they are also taking away their own power to use the mighty pen to promote their own ideas!