Hey I'm a lady, but thought I'd throw in my own .02 ... started in August at 195 lbs (and at only 5'6, that is FAT FAT FAT!!) I've lost about 35 lbs, which is probably 20 lbs fat and 15 lbs muscle (not as great as I'd've liked).
I'm now working on losing the last fifteen, but I'm taking it much slower. I usually have 1500 - 1800 kcal/day, with ~170 grams of protein, fat, and carbs. I've notised the fat's come off 'faster' (or, it's been fat, and not muscle) when I keep my diet clean.
There's two ways to take T-Nation: either as an exclusive club that you could never join, cos you'd have to..gasp..commit to good health and training, or as an opportunity to better yourself, and as an invaluable resource.