So now 5'8" 170lb guys at 20%bf are rude jackasses dismissing people in the gym. Your mom must be proud.
Here's a novel idea, instead of being a jerk--which, by the way, I doubt anything like this happened or you replied in any way like you claim--how about you explain to the guy 30lbs less than you what you are doing and why.
I suppose you could have explained the powerlifter style of benching and declared your intention of doing it exactly the way that you WERE doing it. If he didn't leave, THEN be a rude fucker and tell him to go swallow the soap in the bathroom.
Giving advice to others in the gym is frought with risk, and is something I rarely do, unless I feel that the guy is in immediate risk.
Case in point: today I'm watching a guy doing stiff-leg deads in the Smith. He's so intent on using a "full range of motion" that he places a box, about 24" tall, incide the machine, slightly behing the bar, as a platform to stand on- this way he can actually lower the bar LOWER than the "floor" so to speak.
Needless to say, he's flexing his entire spine maximally to achieve this, which poses a very real risk.
In this particular case, I said nothing. Why? Because 90% of the time the advice, as well-intended as it might be, is taken as an insult.
If you DO decide to offer advice, I suggest examining your true intentions: are they to help the person or prove who's more knowledgeable? If it's the former, and the person in question is risking his safety, proceed with caution!
As much as I like to mess with the idiots too, I kinda agree with ghost22. There was a time when we were also in their position (and some of us are still gym idiots from time to time). The only way we got better was through the help of other lifters and from reading.
Personally, I have no way to compensate those who've helped me in the past, so I feel I should at least try to pay it forward.
So why don't you just call him a liar ? what if it has not happened to u, it has never happened, why does he have to explain anything and disrupt his concentration for another gym dickhead who has invaded his personal space.
Actually, yes this happened exactly the way I said it did. However, I neglected to say that I'm not a native speaker of the language of this country I'm working in, and most times people come up to me (at the most awkward times) to "Practice their english."
Let me explain my thinking...I'm out doing things for others all day (job, and extra things) and working out is one of the FEW things I do solely for myself and no one else.
I don't like talking...maybe only a hello between sets (or in this case Ni Hao). If someone is friendly, I return the gesture, if someone does not come to me in a humble manner (as I approach those who are greater than me) I treat them like they are arrogant.
Perhaps it's a culture difference, I dont know, but perhaps not.
As I said before, there was a language barrier too. Body language gets the point across quickly and efficiently.
If he wanted to be educated, he would have asked what I was doing and why instead of automatically assuming I was doing it wrong, right?
Actually, this is the reason I acted this way. When I lift (because I'm not strong or big) I really focus on nothing else but my chosen lift. I don't want to be bothered as I've got work to do.
I'll happily talk to someone when I'm done, or when moving to a different station...but once I sit (or lay down) at the station (or counting time between sets) I don't want to be bothered.
In fact, (normally) when a good-natured person approaches me and I'm lifting I tell them "Look, I don't talk when I'm exercising. I'll gladly talk to you later when I'm finished". And most of the time it works.
But IMHO, anyone who is smaller and weaker than I am (and that's pretty weak) comes to tell me I'm wrong without getting information on what I'm doing...well they are nothing but a nuisance.
My mother is actually quite proud of me. I am kind and considerate of others who may or may not know as much as I on a given subject. I don't mind helping people and taking a little time out of my day to do so. Granted, if I'm in the middle of a serious workout, I may say I don't have the time right now, but I never am dismissive nor do I look down on those who ask genuinely for any help.
I've been working out for almost 20yrs--10 very seriously--and have never had someone come up to me as I was about to lif or in the middle of my lift to discuss my lift or correct my form. These posts are getting more and more ridiculous. They want to be some tough guy know-it-all who is really working hard and is all serious and stuff. Truth is--if you are and if you look like you are training, I don't see why someone would come up to you and start correcting you. Certainly not someone 30-40-50-100lbs weaker.
Maybe if you learn to communicate like an adult others would take you serious.
And I have been out of the country. That would also imply different cultures!
You can blah blah me to death. If you worrying about me believing you is this upsetting, too bad. The real gist of my post is:
If you look like you know what you're doing and it shows, noone would come up to you as you are about to lift and comment. So you maybe don't measure up, I don't know. But when some guy comes on here and says this happened to him, then I guess there must be a reason. And your little "I gave him the dissmisive shoo away sign with my hand bs" is annoying. And your arguing with me that it is real instead of addressing the fact you were a jerk doesn't make me feel like I judged you wrong.