[quote]The Mighty Stu wrote:
I never understand why people obsess so much if another person accomplishes something and is proud of themselves. I read a bit about this, and I believe her “what’s your excuse” line is what set off so many people (mostly women). Some comments were to the effect that someone with a ‘real job’ (not a personal trainer) can’t be in the gym all day, and other silly crap. I’ve known plenty of people who not only train, but compete with much more demanding jobs than I have, and multiple kids. I respect the hell out of them.
I think the woman’s intended point was that if something is important to you, you’ll find a way, not “I’m better than you”, which some people seem to have interpretted.
I’ve seen this in all parts of life, like happiness or accomplishment is a commodity. Some people somehow manage to convert “Good for you” into “bad for me” as if someone doing well somehow diminishes their own accomplishment.
When my wife did her first figure contest, she noted to me that the leaner and more fit looking she got, the almost bitchier and more willing to find faults her co-workers became. It was almost as if they were angry at her for being able to elicit just a dramatic change in her own life while they may not be willing, or even able to in their own.
I never talked much about my competing while at my day job, but I have had people make dismissive comments towards me as if they must think that I perceive myself in a much different light than I actually do. Like was said earlier, it’s not my problem, it’s theirs.