Hyok, I agree with a lot of the things you’ve said. I too find it ridiculous the amount of prejudice that exists here. But what can you do? When I get it, I usually say something (in Japanese, of course), and that generally surprises people enough that they shut up. Of course, being White, I don’t get included in conversations about how bad the Koreans are. But I try to cultivate a circle of friends who don’t have those kinds of hang-ups. (Mostly younger people.)
Just to set the record straight, though, the comment I posted above was made to a White American girl in 1982, waaaay before I was even thinking about coming to the Orient. So I’m not one of those guys who can only get laid in Asia (I know you were worrying about that…). Also, I’m a bit older than the typical Nova English teacher, so I generally don’t hit on the 19- to 20-year-old, deer-in-the-headlights crowd like most of them do. I probably will end up marrying a Japanese woman (not that I have a particular fetish about them, it’s just statistically the most likely outcome at this point), but when I do rest assured that she’ll have her own opinions and a functioning brain. Peace, bro.
Nate, I actually dated the woman I said that to for 8 months (a record at the time), so I don't think that using the line would necessarily mean that the relationship was short-lived. Still, I see your point - you might want to try something a bit less risky! So how about you keep the ol' char-dawg's (ever notice how people on this board start referring to themselves in the third person?) advice up your sleeve as a last-resort kind of thing just in case things get desperate! Good luck!!