I'm writing this trying to find something to help my fiance out. She is fed up with my ideas on how to help her get into better shape. Her overall goal is to drop her bodyfat percentage to the point where she doesn't have that extra fat that bugs her when she sits down or has an awkward picture taken. She would like to just become more lean overall and add some definition. Nothing drastic but she wants that "looks like I workout" look. She doesn't have much to lose, but no matter what I tell her she won't relax about it and its getting really frustrating listening to her complain about my advice.
I told her to lose that extra fat she should only be doing cardio a couple times a week and not for more than 30 minutes. I think she should shoot for about a 200 calorie deficit and obviously lifting would help her confidence and physique. I'm looking for a base plan that I can show her to get going. She has been lifting 3 to 4 times a week but its very unstructured. She doesn't mind lifting but refuses to lift with me as I follow a more hybrid bodybuidling/powerlifting program and she hates all the sets and different rep ranges.
I'm looking on advice on how to help her. What diet specifics and workouts have worked well for you in the past. She is about 5'4 and weighs around 130 body fat percentage is around 23 giver or take. Let me know if you would like any additional information, I just want some advice because she says everything I've given her to do has made her "fatter" I have seen literally no changes but as i've learned in life, "its always my fault" haha Help me!