The abundance of wisdom here never ceases to amaze me. To get everyone a better idea, she actually is the one who came to me for advice, and does so quite often. I've tried to stay out of this with her for as long as I can remember because I know that like many of you have said, it just causes drama when she feels like I'm telling her what to do and how to do it.
I've went with the approach of saying things like "I feel like we both should work on eating more vegatables and lean meats" and "we would both get the results we're after if we skipped out on the junk food snacking and cheat meals" I think its less offensive/demeaning if I make it clear to her that we both can get better at things, not just pointing fingers.
This approach works great at the time, but then as soon as she reaches for an oreo I have no way of helping. She has told me in the past that I need to "make her" stop doing this. I've explained that there is literally no way for me to correct her eating in front of other people without coming off as a controlling asshole, which is true and I refuse to do that. Self-control is as stated "self" controlled, and I'm not a babysitter.
I think I convinced her last night to atleast start tracking everything she eats so she can have peace of mind when it comes to caloric intake and macro count so I think thats a good start. I might very well consider pointing her in the direction of a trainer, but she finds this as a waste because I work part time as a trainer.
That's why I'm more or less looking for a program she can follow on her own that provides a workout and atleast gives a macro count for her to shoot for. My ideas for her have been simple but effective when she chooses to follow them. I told her what has worked best for me in the past, a slight caloric deficit created by working out, lots of veggies/lean meat and clean carb sources.
We have a vacation planned her in about a month so I told her to set a goal for herself to only allow herself x amount of cheat meals and to make herself be as consistent as she can be. I feel like a month is plenty of time to atleast make a good attempt at behavioral/dietary changes, especially when what she is doing now isn't all that bad.
From my experience and scientific exploratory research ( google), it looks like following a macro split of around 40% carb 30% protein and 30% fat would be a decent goal for her to try for every day. How big of a caloric deficit is too much?
I looked at her tracking yesterday and after all the cardio and lifting she did, she was around 800 calories below her maintenance amount of 1200, she ate around 1100 and added an additional 700 burned through working out. This seems like far to little for her to be eating? Any thoughts on this? Trying to tell a girl who is trying to lose weight to eat more is a fun challenge in itself haha TIA!