I’m sure I’m going to get flamed for this, but some of it has to be said.
I’m an English major, and I specialize in gender theory (no, I’m straight as an arrow) The whole idea surrounding gender theory is to examine the roles we’re forced into so that we can CHOOSE to do things, not be unconsciously FORCED into things by the roles society puts on us.
Typically, in a patriarchal society, men and molded to become a direct opposition to femininity, because that helps in the oppression of women. Men are modeled to be strong, to imply women become weak. Men are raised assertive, to make women submissive, and so on. Conforming to these roles unconsciously only perpetuates the stupidity.
I’m not saying that men shouldn’t be strong, or assertive. What I’m saying is that men are still men regardless of how physically dominant or mentally assertive they are. PEOPLE should be strong and mentally assertive. The only thing that makes you “manly” dangles between your legs–everything else is a result of your personal choice to conform to what others tell you to be.
As for the comments about men waxing and getting manicures, yes I think it’s BS, but I think it’s BS because it’s unnecessarily vain, not because it makes them “feminine,” anymore than watching the superbowl makes them “masculine.”
I also think basic training would be good for men (and women) because it would instill a necessary focus on physical fitness and cooperation in a society that has become self-centered, lazy, and superficial.
If you’re threatened by the image of a more “feminine” man, perhaps you need to take a long look at what you think a man is, and why. Are the traits that you associate with manliness entirely due to the biological differences between men and women, or is there a LOT more social issues behind them?
Flame, if you will, but THINK.