That is the hardest thing of all. Trying not to act over-interested when you ARE over-interested. How can I act freakin natural when I’m trying so hard to act natural!
Here’s a tip that has worked for me in the past. Find a flaw with her that makes her not the queen of the world. It will make her just a human woman again, and you can deal with her from a more controlled position. Of course, this is a minor flaw, so you’re still interested, but it helps bring her down and takes the pressure away.
Example: I once asked this really hot chick at work to go out and have coffee with me. (Don’t worry, we worked on different floors; no risk of badness among co-workers happening.) She said she would love to. We do so, talk for an hour and a half, and have a great time. We are both contractors from the same agency at this company, and our agency is having a big banquet less than a week after. We confirm that we’ll see each other at the banquet.
Now, for some reason, THIS girl is really causing me stress. She’s beautiful and hot and intelligent and seems interested. I start getting really freakin nervous leading up to the banquet. I’m really stressing out because I’m starting to wonder if she’s going to find me not worthy and cast me away, I’m thinking she’s that great. This doesn’t usually happen, but this girl is up a notch in class. Trauma trauma…
So, the night of the banquet, I’m all decked out, looking seriously hot. Metrosexuals fear my style. I?m wearing PAISLEY for cryin out loud (and pulling it off brilliantly, mind you). I?m seriously the best-dressed guy at the whole gig. Still I’m nervous as hell. I got there first. Finally, she arrives. WITH ANOTHER GUY! I’m thinking OK, WTF? Is she just stupid, or is she trying to tell me something? So I approach her nonchalantly and ask if she has a seat yet. She says no, and I point out there are still two empty by me (being gracious as ever, of course).
It turns out that the guy is one of her roomies in the house they rent. Still, ALL THE FREAKIN PRESSURE IS GONE! She fucked up. She’s not perfect. In fact, she may be a little bit of a ditz. Sure, I still think she’s hot and want to get in her pants, but now she’s just another hot chick, nothing more, nothing less.
After that I was much more calm, confident, collected, and suave. Her mistake played perfectly into my hand.
So, if you can find something to reduce her to more human status, that might take enough pressure off for you to collect yourself. If that doesn’t work, just remind yourself that she’s just one of many beautiful women, and if she doesn’t work out, there are a helluva lot more where she came from.
Hope that helps.