[quote]Former Fat Boy wrote:
Well after losing about 40lbs with diet n exercise, the people that I know say nothing but WOW! However, a couple of weeks ago this girl in my class saw me eating some peanuts and said ‘‘u gotta stop eating that stuff, that’s why you fat’’
I’m 1.81cm tall and weigh 80.5kg(this morning:)) I admit there’s some extra fat around my waist but nothing that can be seen when I got clothes on. Not to mention, I look good!
I don’t wanna say nothing bad about her, (it just won’t suit a gentleman) but I no longer am and for sure DON’T look fat! It just pissed me off especially after going through a very significant transformation. What’s more, I consider it very important to be constructive, polite and kind(within realistic/reasonable limits) when you talk to people(esp. the ones you are NOT close friends with).
Nobody’s got the right the judge anyone and I think everybody should be careful about what they say to each other. Everybody is entitled to their opinion but that shouldn’t make it allright to say whatever u feel like. Put yourself in their shoes and think about how itï¿½??d feel if someone said it to you.
Excuse my language but this b**ch just pops the fuck out and says someshit like that. as if I done asked her opinion! It’s even more aggrevating when you used to be fat. I mean just cause she short(1.55-60cm) don’t mean everybody around her is a giant. I try not to think of it but it just pissed me off. (forgot the gentleman code there, SORRY!) I didn’t get into it with her by the way.
I just asked: Who’s fat? Me?
-Yes, that stuff’s not good for you! (like she a damn nutrition specialist or someshit)
I just nodded and walked away.
What amazed me was how sensitive I’ve become to negative comments and criticism. Even from my close friends. How the hell did my self-esteem and mood get so vulnerable? What the fuck! It only takes a negative comment from someone and there goes my day??? It shouldn’t be like that.
But it IS amazing what a bitch negativity is! I mean 10 people can tell you that you look great but if one said that you might wanna get a new haircut, that’s all you’d think about. You’ll go and ask people what they think about your haircut.
I can go on with examples but I don’t wanna make it sound like a research on behaviour or psychology n’shit.
From the sounds of it that girl wasn’t making fun of you but it was more of a neg. A comment given to lower someones social value lower than yours. It is given so the comment is not a burn on the person but in a joking sound. You just misread what she told you =)