All this talk about Elliott Rodger got me thinking, and much of the talk reminds me of George Sodini, the guy who shot a few women in an LA Fitness gym.
Clearly, both of these men had an understandable problem: no women in their lives. I say understandable because the inability to find and attract women is indeed a problem and can cause men to become incredibly angry, lonely, and sad, which in turn can affect other aspects of a man's life. I actually believe there are few things that can make a man angrier than lack of a woman.
Now, most men who can't find a woman do not go nuts and on shooting rampages. They simply live lonely lives with emotional problems and likely achieve less than they could if they did not have a, utterly strangling preoccupation with their inability to have a woman.
But as much as I can empathize with such men's frustration, I believe they do themselves a disservice by focusing on what they call "attractive women". Now, there's the old saying, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder," but I believe who such men are referring to as "attractive women" are BEAUTIFUL women, that tiny minority of women who are strikingly good looking, not just "attractive" or "pretty". Let's get this straight: few men attract these sorts of women. I believe the frustrated men I speak of would be far better off if they simply became more realistic and realize that "like attracts like" and unless a man is rich or strikingly good looking himself--not just "good looking" or "handsome"--he likely will not attract strikingly good looking women.
Perhaps they are speaking of women who are simply "attractive", but perhaps it might be true that such women would have not gone out with a George Sodini or Elliott Rodger. I am not a dating expert, but I say if you're a five, you go for fives. If you are middle class, you go for middle class. Being a middle class guy myself, I think it would have been ridiculous for me to think that I would have had a shot with a woman from a powerful family. Why some grown men cannot come to grips with the fact that they are ordinary and that there is nothing wrong with attracting ordinary women is beyond me.