Who said anything about a big meal? Her idea is that eating anything at all late at night will make you fat. Some slow protein and fat before bed would be ideal, I think, whether trying to gain muscle or lose fat.
Slow carbs post-workout? Nope. Slow carbs first thing in the morning, yes. Personally if I eat a large meal in the morning I feel like vomitting for the rest of the day and have a very hard time eating like I should. She's the same way.
Not necessarily. To my understanding, if you've expended 2500 calories and only eaten 2000, you can eat an additional 500 right before bed and it won't be excess. You don't have to use them right away, just so long as it balances out at the end of the day (as far as I know).
My question isn't specific to fat loss or muscle gain. My question is this: "does eating before bed promote fat gain?" To my understanding, the answer is "no." What I'm looking for is some info to back up that "no" answer.
Thanks to both of you for your input though.