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Does Your GF/Wife/Partner Even Lift?

Haa yeah, I got my girlfriend totally hooked on working out and even nutrition! Well she is definitely enthusiastic! Ohh and she is the most gorgeous girl I have ever met :wink:

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Now to get a pic of her dealing with real weights hmm…

[quote]BUDs wrote:

[quote]Fuzzyapple.Train wrote:
My more recent ex (4 days now) did not lift and thought I was obsessed when I told her I was at the gym and got off work expecting to hang out. she would get disappointed. I broke up with her for other reasons but being with her made me not want to go to the gym. Since the 4 days I’ve been away from her I am having unreal workouts again. I tried to get her to go to the gym for health reasons as she had depression but was very self conscious. It really played into my psyche.

Thus far, best decision of my life to let her go. Not saying to do that with your current gf hah. [/quote]

Dated a chick that would get pissed that I wanted to lift 4-5 days a week. That relationship didn’t last long. I like a girl that’s into lifting, don’t want her to get fat then resent me cause I look better then her[/quote]
very true, fit people are just better people in general.

more pics guys

[quote]theBird wrote:
Hi friends,

Ill keep this short. Does your partner lift? If not, does this cause any problems/tension within the relationship? If yes, was it you that got them into the lifestyle?

Im asking this, as my gf is getting all serious on me… but I have a problem… she does not lift.

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No, my now girldfriend does not lift, but we are together for about 3 weeks now, so no problems this far. The reason my previous girlfriend and I broke up was because, at her own words, I shouldn’t focus so much fucking time on training and eating and I should rather go party with her. She went to a party every night. Not my lifestyle.

My wife from this weekend

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Looking goooooooood!!!

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Looking goooooooood!!!
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Yea not bad for 39 and three kids. :slight_smile: We workout together 5 days a week, been doing it for years now.

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Looking goooooooood!!!
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Yea not bad for 39 and three kids. :slight_smile: We workout together 5 days a week, been doing it for years now. [/quote]

Awesome.

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Looking goooooooood!!!
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Yea not bad for 39 and three kids. :slight_smile: We workout together 5 days a week, been doing it for years now. [/quote]

For whatever reason I read “39 and three kids” as a number. And I was like… 42 kids? That’s impressive.

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Looking goooooooood!!!
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Yea not bad for 39 and three kids. :slight_smile: We workout together 5 days a week, been doing it for years now. [/quote]

For whatever reason I read “39 and three kids” as a number. And I was like… 42 kids? That’s impressive.[/quote]

I have two so together we had 5, now their ages are 21, 21, 19, 19, 17. It felt like 42 kids when they were younger.

[quote]Ct. Rockula wrote:

[quote]rds63799 wrote:
ya my girl lifts. When we first met she was very skinny, with a BMI of 17 I think.

She didn’t like being bony, particularly her shoulder blades sticking out and bony arse. She was doing loads of cardio which wasn’t doing her any favours so I mentioned that if she wanted to change her shape then lifting weights was the easiest way. I told her to try it once and if she didn’t like it then she doesn’t have to do it again.

Fast forward 6 months and she loves it! She getting strong so fast it’s alarming, going from lunging with the 5k dumbells to using the 24k’s! She’ll be stronger than me if she keeps improving at this rate.

She’s also really good at hitting her protein target (I told her anything above 100g), and sometimes I catch her watching things like Ronnie Coleman training videos and other inspirational lifting shit like that. I’ve turned her into a total meathead! I hope she doesn’t leave me for a bodybuilder…

She’s also gained ~10lbs, which has pretty much all gone to her glutes, :). And her cup size has gone up two sizes too.

I am very proud of her and the progress she’s made.[/quote]

She will leave you for a wrestler.

As soon as i land in Scotland…[/quote]

ha! Yeah probably. I’m punching above my weight, it’s only a matter of time before she realises

None of my GF’s have ever lifted. I tried to get my last GF to, but she wasn’t really consistent in any way. My current GF isn’t into lifting either, which at first seemed like a negative, but honestly, I think I prefer it like that. Kind of like that lifting is ‘my thing’, my own private time.

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[quote]theBird wrote:
Does your partner lift? If not, does this cause any problems/tension within the relationship? If yes, was it you that got them into the lifestyle?

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Bird, I left some links for her over on the thread you started in PW.

My husband is an active person. He will go to the gym a couple of times a week with me, but I wouldn’t say he’s “into the lifestyle”. That’s perfectly fine if it isn’t a big passion for him. He’s built more like an endurance athlete and likes to ride a bike. I like the lean wiry build on him a lot. I’m sort of WAY into fitness enough for the both of us. And he’ll always walk with me in the evening for 30 minutes to an hour. Always.

We don’t have to share everything. If he goes out mountain biking, or when he was younger lots of surfing, it was with men friends. I like to take ballet classes, and he doesn’t. That’s cool. :slight_smile: And does it have to be lifting? Lots of women who are into running, dance so forth and have terrific builds and feel great.

On the eating front, my man tries to be supportive of my clean eating habits, and a lot of that has rubbed off on him. BUT I don’t make a big deal about him always having chips in the house or Starbucks ice cream in the freezer. I make cookies for him and the kids a lot, and if I’m cutting like I am now I won’t touch them. I don’t want to be the mom who never makes cookies.

Fitness and taking care of one’s health may be a priority for you. That can take many forms. People kind of owe it to their spouse to not let themselves go physically. I’m not attracted to beer bellies. I’m glad he doesn’t have one.

AND in the big relationship picture, don’t forget:

Attitudes regarding money, sex, family, and religion/ethics. And maybe the most important thing, be with someone who NICE and is a POSITIVE person… mostly happy/content. That one is HUGE.

My wife doesn’t lift at all. She mostly belly dances for ‘excercise’ but none of it has ever been an issue. I’ve been lifting since I met her and when I had stopped for almost 2 years it wasn’t because of her. It was because I was unable to deal with stress effectively and turned to other ways to relieve it instead of lifting.

She’s very supportive with lifting though - it’s my thing and that’s the way it will stay.

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Fuzzyapple.Train wrote:
My more recent ex (4 days now) did not lift and thought I was obsessed when I told her I was at the gym and got off work expecting to hang out. she would get disappointed. I broke up with her for other reasons but being with her made me not want to go to the gym. Since the 4 days I’ve been away from her I am having unreal workouts again. I tried to get her to go to the gym for health reasons as she had depression but was very self conscious. It really played into my psyche.

Thus far, best decision of my life to let her go. Not saying to do that with your current gf hah. [/quote]
Been there, myself.

If you genuinely care about a person, it sucks the life out of you… and feel guilty when you think about leaving her. At least I did.

You def did the right thing.[/quote]

Totally agree. Thanks IH.

[quote]browndisaster wrote:

very true, fit people are just better people in general.

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The irony it burns.

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Looking goooooooood!!!
[/quote]
Yea not bad for 39 and three kids. :slight_smile: We workout together 5 days a week, been doing it for years now. [/quote]

For whatever reason I read “39 and three kids” as a number. And I was like… 42 kids? That’s impressive.[/quote]

I have two so together we had 5, now their ages are 21, 21, 19, 19, 17. It felt like 42 kids when they were younger.[/quote]

That had to be pretty rough 3-5 years ago.

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Looking goooooooood!!!
[/quote]
Yea not bad for 39 and three kids. :slight_smile: We workout together 5 days a week, been doing it for years now. [/quote]

For whatever reason I read “39 and three kids” as a number. And I was like… 42 kids? That’s impressive.[/quote]

I have two so together we had 5, now their ages are 21, 21, 19, 19, 17. It felt like 42 kids when they were younger.[/quote]

That had to be pretty rough 3-5 years ago.[/quote]
You have no idea, we are still working on some of the end results of a blended family of 5 teenagers. But our marriage made it through that and has made my wife and I a partnership of steel and iron will.

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
My wife from this weekend[/quote]

Gettin some!!!


I’ve dated many girls over the years who have “gone to the gym”, or had some background in dance, or athletics of some kind when they were still in school. When I met my (now) wife, she had the usual “I go to the gym regularly with my sister” and “I’ve worked with a personal trainer before”. Of course while I would never intentionally make anyone go to the gym with me, or even look over what they’re doing for fear of appearing as a know-it-all. Well, I soon found that my girl had no clue what she was actually doing as far as creating LBM, keeping her metabolism up, and basically eating to support a lean physique. I had to be very careful the first few years as I basically tore through everything she thought she knew from her past “trainers”.

Eventually, after watching me compete a few times, she expressed interest in stepping onstage herself. I honestly did my best to talk her out of it! -lol. I don’t think she fully realized how much I played down my actual suffering during my past preps. Long story short, she decided doing a mock-contest prep would help her rehab her recently broken humerus bone. About half way into our proposed 16 week run down, she decided to actually commit to the same show I was getting ready for.

It definitely changed her life, no doubt. While like me, she realizes that competing isn’t your life, it’s just something you do, she took the year off as she planned our wedding, focused on work, and basically took care of real life issues. Now, she’s all ready to step things up and get back up on the dais this coming Spring. In a true reversal of roles, I’ll be sitting out the 2013 season (shoulder surgery), and doing my best to support my girl as she ensures that someone carries our name onstage in their underwear :slight_smile:

I’d never want her to do this FOR me, or thinking that it’s what I want her to do, but so long as it’s her desire to train hard, competing or not, I’m supportive and damn proud of her.

S