I consider my life much richer having had children, and I know my wife agrees. We had kids very early in our marriage, we were both 19 and the two boys are 13 months apart. We were very happy with two kids, never really thought about having anymore. Until...we did.
Derek was born in 2001, when my oldest was 15 and his brother was 14. It was a bit of shocker, to say the least, when Nanc told me she was pregnant after all those years. Nobody can say God doesn't have a sense of humor.
I can honestly say neither one of us was too thrilled at the prospect of "starting over". We had dreams of long motorcycle trips and other things we really wanted to do. But we gradually warmed up to the idea. We both love kids and have enjoyed working with them in various settings. We also decided that we would not stop with just this one. My two older boys had a great time growing up together, playing, laughing, fighting, taunting, abusing and all the other stuff that goes along with being brothers. We enjoyed having the first two so close, why not the next generation?
Nancy was four months pregnant with Andrew when Derek died of SIDS. It was a confusing and heartbreaking time. I had seen my parents marriage ripped apart by the death of my brother, but by the grace of God we are closer than ever. When Andrew was born, we decided to stick with the original plan, and have two that would grow up together. Karalyn, out first and only girl, was born 17 months later. That is a new experience, and she already has me wrapped pretty tight around her finger.
So to sum up this long post (sorry), we have a 19 yr old sophomore in college, an 18 yr old senior in high school, a 2 3/4 yr old, and a 15 month old. And you know what? We are having the time of our lives. It's a lot different rearing kids as a 39 yr old (semi-mature) adult than a 19 yr old kid. The next generation was also the impetus for me getting off my fat butt and losing 60 pounds over the last year. I couldn't keep up otherwise! From my perspective, I couldn't imagine having just one, but you gotta do what you think is right.