I like Pwnisher's notes above. In addition:
1) what is the best routine for my experience level , I kinda liked candito strength\hypertrophy but is it good for me good ? or sould I go back to 5x5 ?
5/3/1 would probably be a good starting point for you at this juncture.
2) Am I actually still a novice ?
There's no definitive way for any of us to answer this, as there's no time stamp on advancing to various levels of development. But considering that you only listed your bench press and such, probably yes.
3) Can I build muscle and lose fat at the same time if i am at tiny deficit [ 100 cals ] because I don't look like I have built any huge amount of muscle yet,or should I cut to 10% and then do slow bulk ?
Training/lifting is generally a long journey. You should go the route that you think that you will enjoy pursuing. Either is a viable option, and either will take a long time.
4) Or would it be best to eat at maintenance and build muscle because i am overweight ?
You are not overweight. You don't look bad. You're just a weak guy as things go--bench pressing 70kg for 7 after three years of training is not a signal of having made significant progress. You probably frankly just don't know quite what you're doing at it pertains to really exerting yourself, taking care of the other 23 hours of the day in terms of sleep and such, etc.