This is a two parter, I have alot on my mind. <
1, I was sitting in the hot tub at the pool last weekend with my 7 yr old boy, and for some reason mentioned 'Twinkies' in the conversation. He asks what a 'Twinkie' is, and I tell him, it's like white cake with icing or cream inside.
Then I go on to say, that 'Ding Dongs' are really where it's at. ( mmmmm CHOCOLATE... ) So, I don't want the poor little beggar to be underprivileged, and promised him we'd get him a Ding Dong to taste, one day soon. Tonight, we went shopping at Safeway, they had no Ding Dongs, and neither did the 7-11 or the other convenience store we tried. So, he bought some kinda candy to hold him over until we find the elusive Ding Dongs. So where the Hell are they hiding all the Ding Dongs?
2, My boy is very active in alot of physical activities. He has been in Karate for about a year and a half, is a white belt with 3 stripes, and should earn his yellow belt at the end of this term. He plays soccer, on Saturdays, with practices on Thursday nights. He takes swimming lessons on Sunday mornings.
He has gotten very interested in indoor rock climbing, and played T-ball last Spring. The trouble arises with his main interest being 'having fun.' Karate is Tues and Thurs nights, and soccer practice being Thurs nights, conflicts. He skipped one 'semester' of Karate last spring to play T-ball, and missed most Thurs night Karate sessions last 'semester' to go to soccer practice.
I loosely negotiated with him this time, that he'd go to one soccer practice every two weeks, and therefore he'd attend 3 out of 4 Karate sessions. I think he's already not too happy with that. But he has to perform a Kata by himself to earn his yellow belt, and he's always had some trouble mastering the Katas, although he is otherwise quite talented at Karate, and the Sensei knows him quite well.
Here's the rub. He talks about quitting Karate, and I don't want him to do that. He says it's not FUN anymore. Now, I have to admit, selfishly, I don't want him to quit. But beyond that, I'm not sure he actually wants to quit. I think he may just want to balance all his activities, and be nervous about mastering the Kata.
I want to have a talk with him about responsibilites vs fun. That is, I'd like to try to explain to him that while it is important the he has fun, and enjoys his activities, that learning Karate has many life benefits, that extend beyond just enjoying himself.
He's a very mature kid, and I want to see if I can influence him to continue with Karate because he can see the benefits of it. I was a fucken shithead when I was a teenager, and on
into my 20's......... ok, all through my 20's. And I remember distinctly saying, often, all I want to do, is have fun. And gawdamn, if I don't know what a waste of fucken time that was.
So, any advice?