Due to the recent influx of posts about relationships and “nice guys/girls” finishing last, etc,etc. I’m interested in opinions on this particular scenario. My roommate in college just got reamed out by a guy who feels she “played” him. I don’t think so and neither does she, but we would like a guy’s opinion on this one. My roomie is hot and has a great personality to boot. Needless to see she is never lacking for male attention and often has more of it than she really wants. All of her past boyfriends are still friends of hers and she has never had a fight or a messy break-up. So, guy # 1 comes onto the scene and they go out on a date and have a great time. Then a friend sets her up on a blind date with guy # 2. She goes to dinner and a movie and has a really great time. Both are different guys, but both are nice and she has a nice time. Then she hears from some guy friends at work that guy # 2 is a bit weird and she should stay away from him. She hasn’t found him to be that way, but puts things on hold due to school exams and other assignments. In the meantime, she goes out again with guy # 1 and begins to really like him. She continues to talk on the phone with guy # 2 now and then in an attempt to get to know him a bit better and decide for herself whether he is really weird or not. She decides that he sounds okay and after exams agrees to meet guy # 2 for coffee with two other friends–an hour or two of conversation in the afternoon. She decides he is a decent guy, but she really isn’t attracted to him and prefers guy # 1.
She lets the friend who set her up with guy # 2 know that she isn’t interested in him. This friend (of the guy) agrees that this person is a bit weird (too intense and serious for what she is looking for) and regrets setting them up. Everything seems fine, when out of nowhere guy # 2 calls her up and reams her out for playing him, not once, but twice! Now, keep in mind that she is only 18 years old and that no physical contact was made with this guy–no kissing, making out, or anything. She told guy # 2 that he is a great guy, would like to be friends with him, but is really interested in guy # 1 and that she doesn’t want to ruin that relationship right now. That relationship is still new too. Both guys came into her life at virtually the same time.
So, guys, and girls, what do you think? Was she a player and horrible to guy # 2, or is this all his problem because he liked her, felt he wanted her and she turned him down. Is he acting like an immature child, or should girls always only consider going on a date with one guy at a time? What do you guys do when you are out meeting new people? Do you take one or two girls out on a date, just to see, at first and then decide, or go for only one at a time?