DAN C: As far as “nice guy syndrome,” that’s what I’m trying to avoid. My personal take is that most nice guys are boring, and that they’re essentially boring because they SEE themselves as being “nice guys,” who will bend over backwards to accommodate a woman, rather than challenging her and making her work for it. The other thing a lot of “nice guys” tend to do is complain. Saying “oh, women don’t like me,” while secretly hoping that the woman they’re saying this to is going to give them validation and say “No, no, I like you.” I’ll probably never be a “novelty seeking” personality type, but I’d like to develop some of those traits and be able to communicate that to anyone, not just women.
Chris: I tend to agree with a lot of what Freud says (just finished a paper on terrorism, Kristeva’s concept of abjection, and the Oedipal conflict). I’m not looking to change my core personality, whatever that may be. I do, however, have difficulty assessing and responding to social cues, and I’d like to be a funnier person.
Boston Barrister: Yeah, I can definitely get into psychological and political discussions/arguments without a problem. I can actually discuss a wide range of topics, but I have difficulty just being a “fun guy.” Maybe I should go vice shopping. I’ve never really liked hanging around drunks, though…
jackzepplin: I wouldn’t say I’m afraid… I really don’t have problems saying just about anything to anyone. It’s more that I just don’t have anything to say. Like I said, getting into the details of Sartre and Freud’s views on group violence just doesn’t turn most people on :). I need to learn how to interact with people in non-academic ways!