[quote]angry chicken wrote:
I left for training camp 5 days ago and am struggling to adjust to my new life and schedule. Every minute of our day is planned out, which I can handle. But, for the last one and a half years, I have spent-not exaggerating- every single day with my girlfriend or at least some portion of it. I am having a very hard to filling her void, and dealing with this new relationship. I am also terrified that we will drift apart. If anyone has any tips or suggestions for any of the questions I have raised I would be very grateful to hear them.
I’ll give you a little tough luv. Keep in mind that I’m not being “politically correct”, but I ask you to read what I’ve written without ego and with an open mind. Know that I wish you, and your generation, nothing but success in your endeavors - hence, the tough luv.
Lift skirt, grab balls to make sure they are still there. Spending EVERY DAY with your girlfriend is counter productive in the long run. View this as an opportunity of “giving her the gift of missing you”. If you lose her, she was never yours.
The fact that you are “terrified” of drifting apart speaks VOLUMES about who you are as a man and your level of maturity and evolution. You gotta be comfortable in your own skin and you gotta find your own path. Co-dependency does not move one in a positive direction. Not at your age.
Grow up, son. The only GUARANTEE in life (besides death and taxes) is change. Sometimes it will change for the better, sometimes for the worse. Sometimes a decade later what you THOUGHT was for the worse was in fact for the better… But change and flow are inevitable. When you stagnate, you stop moving and you die - not necessarily physically, but your SOUL dries up and you just… settle. Keep moving as long as you can, figure out what your path is and WALK IT. She’s more than welcome to join you, but if she tries to take you from your path, you gotta let her go. Or settle. The choice is up to you. But whatever you choose, don’t whine about it.[/quote]
Damn well said man!
Oh one more book worth checking out similar to what AC said, The way of the superior man written by david de angelo I think [/quote]
That would be David Deida who wrote The Way of the Superior Man. Not to take away from Ebenezer Pagan (AKA David DeAngelo) That guy has some good stuff mixed in with the bullshit products.
Too bad they took down SAMA - before I could just link to something I’ve written before (like Confession/Question), now I’m gonna have to start repeating myself.