Recently I've been put in a situation I found profoundly uncomfortable, which thankfully is almost at an end. Some context:
A former housemate (My girlfriend and I have now found a new place) attempted to dress us down in a Facebook message for arriving 15 minutes late to a house meeting (i.e an informal talk at the local pub that was organized the day before). I was running a fever at the time (respiratory tract infection, etc) and my girlfriend was trying to deal with some racist bullshit she'd copped earlier from a senior lecturer in her course. We made our apologies, yet several hours later this housemate posts an fairly patronizing message to both us and the rest of our house, demanding apologies, explanations, etc.
I responded to her message publicly and privately explaining the situation, and privately telling her not to attempt a dressing down like that again, as it was an informal meeting. At this stage I was thinking "ok, this is just the mild crap you deal with living with people".I suggest that we have a meeting to mediate this "as the intention of statements may be lost when typed".
At the meeting she then accuses me of threatening her, making her fear for her safety so much so that she can't live in the house anymore "because I don't know what you'll do..". I then attempted to accommodate her "perception" so much that it almost makes me sick thinking of it (i.e what can I do to make you feel safe, why do you feel this way, what would you like done) which does nothing, as her mind was already made up. I made an effort for two reasons primarily: Compassion for her level of crazy, and uni exams were the next week and at that point I wanted the situation to just end.
Next minute she declares the situation irreparable, and tell us that she will be sleeping at her mothers until such time as we are no longer in the house. Her boyfriend, who has been sitting by to "make her feel safe while talking to (me)" then gets takes both her and a mattress to her mothers. I should mention she is the landlords daughter and is 27 years old.
We then decided to move out. I consulted two psychologists and a lawyer as to if a threat had been made or if it was worth trying to mediate the situation and they all said nup, no threat, and she's nuts don't try. We're still in the process of getting our bond back (allegations of keeping keys to house etc).
So to the heart of the matter. This has really gotten to me in strange way. I'm used to people physically threatening me and it's water off a ducks back, but someone making false allegations against me really has me concerned. It doesn't help that I'm the perfect target for accusations of threat/intimidation (male, 6'4", 110kgs, broken nose).
The advice I've been given (and taken) has been to remove myself from the situation as quickly as possible. However I wonder what do you do when removing yourself from the situation isn't a viable option? Does anyone have any experience in dealing with this type of thing?