So, this is my first post. Hi guys. (: Been lurking for a while, too scared to say anything, but I need some help.
My current workout partners, my two best friends, are giving me some trouble because I'm doing the same program as them, even though I'm a girl. Mostly, I think I just need to vent about how today went and see what you guys think I should do.
We're doing a program called "Starting strength" which is basically 3 sets of 5, squat, dead and bench. My problems in the gym today started when my partners Iz and P straight up told me I shouldn't bench more than 85 (I had a rotator cuff injury eight months ago, from doing wrestling on my high school team, that basically sent me into a slump where I didn't work out at all during the time from december until now) .. Even though it wasn't that much of a problem for me, and I used to bench 105 no sweat.
Then I'm told, "not meaning to be sexist, but this really isn't for girls anyway" .. And I'm basically yelled at for benching, because my honey (an avid TNation lurker for years now) wasn't that thrilled at the idea of me trying it, due to my previous shoulder injury. And because he's gone at training now, so he's not here to help me pace myself, they've made themselves "in charge of the situation"..
So after that whole thing, we go to do squats and there's only 85 on the bar that Iz does, and then he's like "Is this too much for you?" even though we BOTH did 105 the week before.. So I end up not even squatting, getting so offended I go do some machines the coach in the gym (this is a college gym) told me would help get my shoulder back up to shape.. But, only if they promise I get to do deadlifts with them. (those're my favorite) So my other friend, P comes over and starts berating me for using any machines because they isolate the muscles too much and will hurt me..
.. And by this point I'm pretty pissed, and when it's my turn to do the deads half the dumb gym stares at me because Gasp there's a 45 on each side, and I'm a girl, how is that possible for someone FEMALE and 5'2''? (I'm the only girl not in the seperate cardio room, except for an aide at the desk bullsh*ting with the coach btw)
So, I just ignore them and we go up in weight.. And neither myself or my friend Iz could do 165 with good form, so I stopped after 2, and we called it a day.. When P wasn't even working out in the first place today, not even dressed to work out, but he can still yell at me for benching.
And I feel bad I got so frustrated, because they really do just care, .. And maybe I'm just being overly sensitive about this, but what's your guys' opinion on the matter? Is there any way I can convince them that a squat, or a bench press won't cripple me? I know girls aren't the same as guys, and we have different anatomies that make different lifts easier or harder and stuff.. But we're not a whole different species, and even with our differences I don't think one gender is 'inferior' or 'superior'.. But when I feel inferior, what am I supposed to do? ):
Thanks for reading through that whole crazy book of a post. (: