(I posted this on a another forum and it turned into a flamefest about PC crap and sexual harassment. Please don’t do that! lol!)
So I’ve been dealing with this guy from my work has been bugging me for over a year now. Everytime I think he’s done and going to stay away he reappears after about 3 or so months.
It started with weird e-mails at work, then he was following me to work in the morning and then following me home, then weird messages on my work voice mail. So after telling him to leave me alone didn’t work I stuck my boss on him. But he kept following me around and leaving voicemails (‘calling just to hear my voice’-ack!) And someone told HR (not me and against my wishes). And now he’s going to be fired if he bugs me again.
But after 3 months of silence, over xmas, the guy starts sending me weird, unsettling (delusional!) e-mails to my personal gmail account which I have NO idea how he got a hold of because only a handful people have it. I’ve talked to most of them and they don’t know how he got it. I’m really bothered now because it looks like he has gone to some lengths to figure out my e-mail. Which I don’t know what. HR has told me I MUST tell them about ANY unwanted contact. But he will be fired for certain if I do. I think he should be fired but I’m a bit worried about the fallout of this. I head back to work tomorrow and now I’m getting a little stressed about it.
I’m not really afraid of the guy but then again he seems pretty looney. So maybe I should be. I’m tempted to just contact his wife. Or verbally humiliate him in front of his co-workers. But I think he wants any kind of attention from me and I shouldn’t give it to him. I haven’t so much as made eye contact with him since I first told him to cut it out over a year ago. But that doesn’t mean anything because all I ever did was make small talk with him ONCE at the coffee station while I was waiting for it to brew. I guess I have to do what would best make him go away and not what I’m tempted to do because he’s pissing me off.
So, do I go into HR first thing tomorrow morning? Do I just tell my boss? (he might get himself into trouble if I do that) or do I do something else or nothing at all?
I think I have to tell HR but I suppose I’m just nervous and don’t want to make things worse. Him getting fired will be pretty serious. His wife just had a baby and this will probably fuck him up for getting another job since our industry requires a clean background. I know this is not my problem but he might make it my problem!
Any cops or anyone with experience with nut jobs like this?