Instead of posting about TRT for a change I thought I would seek the wisdom of my fellow T Forum guys about something a little different: being successful with women as a short man (5"7 on a good day)! Basically, rightly or wrongly, I feel that society, especially women, view short men less favourably and seriously than taller men and over the years this has given my self-esteem and confidence a real battering!
I am am ambitious guy (Law graduate hoping to be a lawyer), charming, well-presented, keep fit and try not to think about my lack of height too much when going on dates and meeting women. Got mild acne and not particularly muscular or ripped, but wouldn;t stand out as being majorly fat or majorly thin! Unfortunately however, I have had MANY VERY NEGATIVE experiences with women in the past and attribute much of this to my real or perceived unattractiveness in relation to height.
Any guys on here with any advice on how (indeed if) I might go about ridding myself of what is unfairly labelled “short man syndrome”? It seems to me that, as with many things in life, it is one rule for one group of people, in this case tall men, and one rule for us shorties. I never used to obsess about my height and it has only come to the fore in recent years owing to my lack of relationship success with women. Any guys on here who are shorter than the average UK male (under 5"10) who have had similar experiences?
I have a lot to offer. I am funny, relatively intelligent, mentally strong and have been told by many women I have dated that my height and looks are not the reason they reject me. I however am extremely cynical about this, as if I was handsome and appealing then surely I would have a partner by now? People tell me it’s my attitude and that women and indeed other men can smell insecurity a mile off? At 24 I should be enjoying life, not feeling like I’ve been chucked onto the rubbish heap!
Would be interested to hear your thoughts. I hope there is a positive way of overcoming this prejudice and living my life unencumbered by nagging feelings of anger, frustration and sadness because of something that frankly seems to me rather inconsequential.