This is a long story, so I’ll give you some background first.
I am currently a high school wrestler. There is another kid in my weight class on my team, who I handily dispose of whenever we go live, which is pretty often. If we go live for a total of 40 minutes, he scores like 6 points on me, and I get him solidly to his back a number of times and score once or twice on him almost every minute.
The first tournament I did decently well, going 2-2, losing to two pretty tough kids. The next tournament I didn’t do as well, went 0-2, but it was the toughest tournament they have in my section (county) besides the post-season, and my section is pretty tough. I gassed out in my first match pretty badly, but I think that was at least in part due to a bad cold I had at the same. When I finished wrestling, I wasn’t really ‘cough up a lung’ dead, my throat was just as dry as its ever been because I was breathing so heavily through my mouth.
Granted, I wasn’t in the best shape and was in somewhat of a mental rut at the time, but everyone is entitled to a bad day once in a while. Also, the kid was a scrub last year, but is currently ranked highly in my section, but my coach still told me I lost to a scrub. The rankings weren’t out then. My second match I was winning but in the third period got caught in a bear-hug and taken to my back.
But now the coach is starting the other kid on my team in a dual meet on Friday. Keep in mind that he is the coach’s favorite, and always gives it his all and wrestles with heart despite being very unathletic. He did well in the damn JV tournaments, but I’ve never really held JV superstars in high regard, and I can’t imagine how a respectable coach would. I never even wrestled off with him for the spot, as is customary in the wrestling world and on my team.
I don’t know what else to do but beat the other kid whenever we go live, but that doesn’t seem to change the coach’s mind. I talked to the coach today and he said if I kept working hard, focusing on speed and creating movement, then I MIGHT get a shot at a wrestle-off NEXT WEEK. There was no wrestle off for me to lose the spot to a kid I beat consistently during live, but there has to be for me re-claim it? And I’m not even guaranteed a shot at it?
I understand him taking me off Varsity temporarily in order to increase my work ethic, but this feels oppressive and ridiculous now. Favoritism at its finest.
I always thought wrestling was one of the more objective sports out there. You can show whose better by facing off one-on-one, and didn’t have to deal with the coach’s opinions as much. But I guess my coach has other ways of doing things, and somehow the people he is fond of always seem to benefit from his mysterious algorithm, even if they aren’t really that good.
I was a hair away from having a rant at him (the coach) today but I knew that wouldn’t solve anything. He compliments me during practice then puts someone I wreck during live ahead of me for the dual meet. WTF should I do? Am I seeing things in a distorted way, or are things as fucking ridiculous as I think they are?
Also, I’m not the only on my team that thinks my coach is being a major d-bag this year. About 1/4 of the team, a lot of them returning Varsity, has quit this year.