With the awesome T-Nation community I’m hoping someone can help me out.
At a party tonight a friend of mine was calling me “Creepy Dan”. I didn’t like it and questioned him about it. He said, “I don’t know, you have creepy eyes.”
Does anyone know what this means (referring to the eye) or how I can avoid it? I do well enough with friends and girlfriends but I don’t want to be thought of as creepy.
Thinking about it, if you think of the effects of Spike, I am almost always like that mentally. I can be fairly laid back, but whatever I’m doing I am focused on it. So maybe my eyes are usually in that intense, focused look.
Also, I don’t intimidate easily like in staring contests or when a girl you don’t know stares at you…most people look away but I calmly look back.
I think this may be a similar problem to some of the guys on here that are so “hyuuuge” that they become intimidating. I’m more medium build but strong. I just want to easily get along with people so any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks.
Seriously though, aside from that one guy how do you normally do with people? You said you do alright with friends and girlfriends, if thats true this dude might have just been busting you.
[quote]Lonnie123 wrote:
This post is kinda creepy.
Seriously though, aside from that one guy how do you normally do with people? You said you do alright with friends and girlfriends, if thats true this dude might have just been busting you.[/quote]
He may have been busting me but even then I bet it was slightly based on truth. Most of the people I know I have known for a while. Also I do tend to get anxious in unfamiliar social settings, but I don’t let it stop me. So maybe that makes me tense around people I don’t know. I’ll know for sure next summer when I’ll be transplanted out of my social network to California.
Ask your friends. Just say you honestly want to know because its bothering you, and if the answer is yes, what makes you look “creepy” and then try fixing it.
Maybe you just don’t blink often, and you don’t notice. Or maybe you tend to stare absent-mindedly (which often translates into psychotically). I seriously wouldn’t stress over it, man.
My bet is you invade people’s personal space, say inappropriate things, and perhaps have a mottled or greasy complexion. Creepy is hard to pin down, you just know it when you see it, hear it.
[quote]vroom wrote:
Do you at least smile or acknowledge people while you are staring down women and strangers?[/quote]
Yeah, not always but usually. I don’t know the friend that was saying it that well and I think he might be holding a grudge against me anyway. So maybe he shouldn’t be my friend but I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt. However I think there is a little truth to it so the plan is try to relax more.