First some background on me. I’m a 22 year old Christian male, and I am waiting (thus far succesfully) for marriage for sex.
My question is, do people think it wise to have a condom available despite the above? I can see it go both ways. The advantage is obvious - if you mess up, your at least going to be relatively safe and avoid the worldly consequences of your action. The disadvantage is more difficult to pinpoint - something along the lines of “admitting defeat” and making it more likely you might engage in sex if things get messy.
But to me, those disadvantages don’t seem to apply… I mean, I’m pretty adamant about waiting for sex, and having a rubber in my pocket isn’t going to change my view. And I will continue to do what I’ve always done, namely, avoid tempting situations, etc. As for the admitting defeat part, I don’t see it that way - I see it more as admitting that I’m not completely infallible (and no human is).
If I’m waiting, why does it matter, I’m sure your thinking. Well, I know a couple friends who were also like me, planning to wait for marriage, and their hormones got the better of them and they ended up having completely unprotected sex. This isn’t something they set out to do in any way, it just kind of happened. If they had had a condom with them, at least they would have been less at risk. And finally, I personally have had some close calls before - my willpower held, but part of me worries in the future what might happen if it doesn’t and I have no protection available.
So for these reasons, I’m strongly considering at least having protection available despite my convictions - what do others think of this?