To all…again thanks for all the posts. I guess in the long run I knew what had to be done, just needed someone else to say it. So if anyone is interested here is some of how it went down.
Saturday morning I went over when I new my buddy was gone, and went in and told his wife that I had to talk to her. We have know each other for some time and I think she thought this was more of a causual visit. Well I told her it was going to break my heart to tell her this...but then I just blurted out, "I know you have been cheating!" I want you to call this guy and tell him it is over now, or I will tell my buddy when he gets back. Well you can't imagine the look on her face. She asked how I knew and I told her that was really not important, but she knew from my look I guess, that I was not joking around. She called this guy, and told him that she never wanted to see him again. Well I could tell this guy was giving her a hard time so I took the phone from her and told this guy look, You have two choices. One you stop seeing her and never ever come in her direction again, or you lose body parts. And I hung up on this faggot. I do not know this guy at all. With that over I sat back down at the table and of course by this time she had tears in her eyes and all. This was very hard for me, cause if a female wants ANYTHING from me all they have to do is start crying, I am a real sucker for that. (I hate to see women cry) Well I was able to hold back my emotions long enough to tell her that I wanted her to come clean with my buddy when he gets back. I told her that if she did not I would tell him by Monday.
Well she started to try and explain herself........but I told her to stop, I did not really care about the details and that she should save that for her husband. (Now we have major Niagra Falls) I told her I did not know what happened and not sure what would happen, but could not stand by and watch her do this to my best friend. Then I asked her if she realized how much he really loved her. By this time she was a mess and I told her I had to leave. I was starting to loose it myself. So I back out of the drive and start back to my place and about 5 blocks away from their house I run into my buddy who is on his way home. We pull off to the side and say hello and all that. I was about in tears my self and then he asked me if everything was okay. All I could say was I do not know we'll see. Told him I had to really get going...but would see him later.
Last night he stopped by the house, said his wife had taken the kids to some school function and he wanted to talk to me. We had a long talk. He looked pretty shook up still. He said when he got home she was still at the table sobbing and it took awhile for him to even get it out of her as to what was wrong. He told me he thought he was going to have a heart attack right there on the spot. Well they talked a bit. She told him that I had come over and she had called this guy and ended it. He said it was all so unreal he thougt it was all like a really bad dream. Well they sat at that table until about 6 that evening when my buddy told her he was leaving. He told her he would be back, and not to worry about him, but he had some thinking to do. He said he drove around all night Saturday night and just thought and thought and thought. The next day he went back around noon. Told her he was going to try and forgive her…but he would need some time.
He said she had till morning to decide weather or not she wanted to make it work and make it better than it was before, or she could leave. But he said he would never stand for anything like this again. He told her he would fight for the kids if she wanted to leave. She told him that night that she could not leave him, and that she still loved him very much.
Just by chance, I found out from some other people that this guy that she was cheating with is a real snake in the grass and this is not the first time he has had an affair with a married women.
Any way, my buddy Thanked me. Can you believe that. He said he was sure what I did was not easy. (See what I mean about this guy...after all that he thanks me for giving him the worst news in his life, God if I could only be like him) He said he still loved his wife, and could not see spending the rest of his life without her. She had told him she still loved him, and he added, I just hope she loves me as much as I love her. He asked me if I knew this guy, and I said I knew of him. I asked why, and he told me he would like to meet him in a dark alley some night. I told him he best think about that real good, and maybe let someone else with less to loose take care of that. He didn't say anything, just kind of grinned. Told me he did not thing he would be out and about much in the near future, and said I should stop by anytime. He said if nothing else I know the kids like seeing you. The last thing he told me was "You know ckick, I have seen this happen to other guys and always thought to myself how embarrassing it must be cause your always the last to know. Now it happens to me and all I can think about is does she love me."
Any way all…I think it will work out and all is good here. Again I can’t thank you all enough for the reinforcement. Hope I get the chance to help all of you someday. God Bless you all.