I have big soft hands. I was born with girly hands.
But my calluses are like pieces of wood. They are medals of honour and I would never do anything to make them smaller or softer.
If anyone's here to become 'small & soft' then I think you've come to the wrong place.
I don't know how you girls keep ripping your calluses off, maybe your calluses are weak cos you all seen to be rubbing moisturiser into them, maybe you're not gripping the bar tightly enough. This is most important as otherwise you may break a nail which will require an emergency trip to a manicurist.