Sup to my T fam, hope all is well…
I am just seeking a bit of relationship advice since that has gone so well for me in the past on here
Basically, my boyfriend hates that I powerlift. He doesn’t come right out and say it, though he might as well.
He hates that I am stronger than he is, and talks about it constantly. He also gets oddly competitive like “Oh I deadlifted 235 x 3 how much can you do again?”
“Uh, last week I did 260 x 4 for my top set…”
“Well how much can you bench though??! AH HA! I can bench more than you!!!”
K, but like I don’t care…
Then he puts down his body and is trying this fasting diet stuff trying to keep up with me or some shit. And I reassure him all the time that the number one thing that attracts me to a man his HUMOUR, and he makes me laugh constantly. I never needed to be with another powerlifter, and I never notice anything negative about his body at all in the first place.
BUT THEN, we went to the gym together which is supposed to my like my dream date, but he kept trying to lift more than me and was like “Oh please babe, don’t add more weight (I was doing block pulls), you’re killing me here.”
Now he sort of hurt his back from deadlifting and is saying he heard all this shit about how deadlifting can make you paralyzed and he wants me to stop doing it so I don’t hurt myself.
And arching in bench is bad for your back
and squatting is going to make my knees bend backwards and other weird shit like that.
I love him to pieces and he treats me like gold, but he can’t seem to get over this and I’d rather just not talk about it at all.
WHICH is kind of hard for me to do since I’ve been in love with powerlifting for as long as I can remember, and it’s one of the only things I can really think about :D, but I don’t want him to feel badly or inferior to me in any way because he really isn’t.
He works a physical job 10hrs a day with maybe 4 days off a month and I don’t blame him for having difficulty getting to the gym on a regular basis.
He’s a good man, but he hates the thing that I love most about myself. He doesn’t have to do it, but I just wish he would love that I do it, ya know?
I got impregnated by an alien and we’re off to start a new race on Omicron Persei 8.