I don’t think there’s a problem with any of it, either, in terms of consenting adults and all. Where I have a problem, potentially, is in deceiving people. You say it’s a forum and people can chat and sure, that’s exactly what it’s for, as Chris points out. But she’s not chatting here. If she was she’d be chatting about the subject matter she brought into play and asking how others have handled it, not skipping over to “let’s chat elsewhere.”
I suppose my point in saying anything at all is that I find it suspect and want people to do whatever consenting adult things they do with eyes wide open. And by people I mean the guys reacting to a super-smart feminine blond psychologist bombshell who’s mad strong and who as crazy good luck would have it adores men just like them.
If I’m wrong then I’ve made a big, hurtful mistake and for that I’ll feel badly. If she manages to ignore me and sticks around because she’s legit and this is a great site for people as serious about training as she is, then eventually that will become clear and I’ll hope she’ll accept the apology I absolutely will offer.
In the meantime I’ll express concern because not everyone is as discerning as I know you are.
Catfishing is a type of deceptive activity where a person creates a sock puppet social networking presence, or fake identity on a social network account, usually targeting a specific victim for deception. Catfishing is often employed for romance scams on dating websites. --Wikipedea
I completely understand and agree with your point. I guess why it all seems a little strange to me is that we (the collective we; not just you and I) entertain all manner of absolutely ludicrous threads here in the Off Topic forum, and, while there’s obviously always some healthy ball busting involved, for the most part the threads are taken at face value.
I was just surprised at all the raised eyebrows in this particular thread. The vibe I got was just lonely bodybuilder chick wanting to chat to some jacked dudes. It didn’t really seem like she was hiding anything to me but of course I could also be wrong, in which case I’ll owe a few apologies of my own.
I never meant offense. I just hate online dating. When that was the only suggestion I moved on. Not every comment requires a response. I only visit a few forums. This is the only public one. If I’m not interested in an answer. No need to engage. I just leave it and move on.
I came here to ask for real life suggestions. Thinking maybe someone would have a unique idea or funny answer. Nothing more.
I decided to flirt once. I didn’t really check out the functions of this forum. So I asked if we could chat. And I get accused of selling sex. How wonderful.
Ya no. I’ll finish my blog. Then I’m out. I’ll keep to my private forums.
Do as you wish, but you know, I’m only one person. If you’re legitimate you know it. Does it really matter if I do? You mentioned your thick skin - maybe now is the time to employ it.
Suggestions you received included making moves at your gym as well as, when you shot that down, looking into a hardcore gym and attending competitions. You say you’re rural, but I live in serious hardcore nowhere, and a quick google tells me that even I have an event coming up. It’s a little over an hour away, but that’s how we roll in the nowhere; I drive when I want something interesting. Shit, I drive nearly an hour for non-workboot shoes. I would also assume that the others at the competition have driven, so the odds of me meeting someone from my particular corner of the nowhere is fair. I also married someone who lived 45 minutes away from me when we met (online) and prior to him drove well over an hour to date a sociopath. (Impacts on my workouts would be a conversation I would have with another woman trying to find someone workable in a rural area.)
This is really completely fine, but online as in real life an effort to act as if you care when people earnestly try to be helpful makes a good impression. Chilly indifference to appropriate suggestions in addition to a focus on what seems to be an agenda having nothing to do with the stated goal makes a poor impression.
As a psychologist with a focus on defending vulnerable people, I’m sure you’ll understand that I’m protective of people with whom I’ve been interacting since 2007. @The_Myth for example, has not yet heard about my experience at a salt cave self-hypnosis thing, so I’m gonna need him alive until I can work up the energy to post about it in his woo-woo thread.
That said, removing stuff from your browser history on your phone/computer is one thing but that information gets replicated everywhere. Even if you get it all, there’s still the likelihood of dating ads… why is Google giving you dating ads?
I think it’s kinda fucked that anyone in here accused the OP of being a troll. Absolutely nothing in this thread that she said came off to me like there was something wrong here. It was a legitimate question, and yes she got flirty. So? I think pretty much everyone in this thread has on here at some point. I see it all the time.