Last September I went and visited my old roomate in San Diego, I went out there to look at a condo she just bought that I was planning on moving into. We had lived together for a year here in Arizona and everything had gone extremely well, we were still really close so this looked like a good move.
Well somewhere on this trip in the middle of alcohol we decided to sleep together, ouch. Needless to say to make a long story short we had a bit of drama between us, combined with my best friend in the world moving out to Arizona to do ROTC and myself landing a pretty good job working for a vitamin distributor I kinda said screw San Diego for the time being.
Now its April and she just came out here to Arizona for her birthday after reconciling with her long time girlfriend who she hadnt spoken to in almost a year. She got into town Thursday night and I met up with her at a local bar where after about 5 minutes talking to her I was promptly blown off and pretty much got the drift she wanted me to leave(although she denied it), she told me I looked bad(not 260 pounds at 10% like when I lived with her), which normally would of been fine - we had that kind of honesty before but topped on a bunch of other things it doesnt make me like her very much at the moment.
Anyways so last night was her birthday. She called me at 9 AM to go to the pool... I ignored the call until about 3 pm when she called again, talked to her for a little bit... she called again at 7pm, 9pm and 11 to tell me where her and her friend were and I told her I'd get back to her because I was at a friend's about 20 minutes away. I never called and got a text from her around 1 that went "im so dissapointed you're not here."
Anyways thats the backstory and my question is, was it wrong to have blown her off on her birthday?