I'm in a similar boat with you. I haven't asked for anything specific for a loooong time. For my 30th, though, my wife threw me a surprise party which was really damn awesome of her.
Normally, in the past 5 or 6 years, aside from my 30th, we generally go out to dinner and I buy myself a nice bottle of whisky. My parents treat us to a dinner and that's about it. No fuss. I could do w/o most of that too, but don't take my whisky.