“Now, as far as guys being “friends”, especially close friends with married women, I see many problems. First, she has to be insecure. Second, the friend has to be insecure or hard up, and third, if the husband tells you to butt out, then butt out. It’s not very manly, in my opinion, to befriend a married woman when her husband objects to it. But that’s both her fault and the so-called “friend’s” fault.”
First, why does she have to be insecure to have a male friend? Perhaps they just get along well.
Second, why is the friend insecure or hard up? Because he wants to be friends with a married woman?
Your first and second points make NO sense - what does friendship have to do with insecurity? Friendship has to do with sharing common interests and enjoying each other's company. 'Friendhip' has NOTHING to do with cheating on your partner.
And finally, if a husband is so petty and insecure that he has to control who his wife is friends with then HE has a problem, not his wife or the wife's friend.
This may not be relevant in 'big bummer's' case, but in the general world, where people are honest and don't cheat on their partners both people should be free to be friends with whomever they want.