I often hear that if you want to better yourself you should surround yourself with the type of people you want to become.
What I’ve learned about myself recently is that being around the people I want to become can be a bit of a blow to my ego. I see them as already having what I want and it makes me feel jealous and inadequate.
Does anyone experience this? I ask, because I know people like Professor X say you should surround yourself with bigger guys if you want to be big, but I imagine if I did that I’d go through the same emotions. It’s something I need to work on…sadly, I feel like I’ve let certain friendships slip away for this very reason and I surround myself with people that are “more like me”, which doesn’t help me grow as a person.[/quote]
IMO, for someone to grow in any area of their life they have to shut up, listen and learn. If you had already reached your goal you would already know how to get there. But since you haven’t it is obvious there is more to learn.
Most people think they know it all and are therefore doomed to never grow or learn because they cannot accept anything other than their own current knowledge. So they continue to live within their own perceptions, continue to do the same things, and continue to get the same results.
So we all have to swallow our pride and take the humiliation (mostly in our own minds) to be able to really learn and go to the next level. The trick is to continue to be open to more new knowledge throughout your life so you continue to get better. Lifelong growth to some extent means lifelong humility.
Ps - is that your dog jumping out the window in your avatar? If so, was he ok after that jump?