Hi all, first off let me mention that I am very new to the internet and web, let alone bodybuilding. But have been reading the t-mag forum for a few weeks and find that the old think about guys with large muscles have small brains is really so far from the truth.
Any way I have a problem that I am not sure how to deal with, and to be honest it has been eating me up inside for some time now. I found out that my best friends wife is cheating on him.
Maybe you should all know about me and my best friends relationship. This is one person I would go to the end of the earth for. Most people I know have never had a close friend like him. But we have this bond that I can’t describe, and have been best buds since grade school. My buddy comes from very humble begginings and has done very very well for himself. He is kind of the all american kid. I have never heard him say a bad thing about other people and is proably the most positive upbeat person I know. He has helped me through situations in ways I can’t describe, and always laughs when he tells me “Ckick, you would be a lot better off if you did not have a conscience”. After all these years, I am still not sure what he means by that…he has a bigger conscience than I, yet we both laugh whenever he says it. About a year ago I lost a sister to cancer who I was very close to. Many of my friends stopped and gave there condolences and all, but it was my buddy who saw that I was having trouble getting over this, and stopped by the house one night when I was alone and got me to open up to the point where I just sat and cried like a baby. As silly as that may sound to you…I can’t tell you how much better I felt the next day. He has always had that effect on me…knowing what and when I need something and then is always there to help, or give me hell if I need it. I can not say enough about this man.
Okay I remember the first time he met his wife. He was head over heals for her, and stopped by my house the next day and told me he met the girl he was going to marry, and then went on and on for hours about her. He is truly in love with his wife. But several weeks ago I found out the cold facts that she is cheating on him. What do I do? Do I tell him? I'm afraid that if I do, he is going to be devasted, and I think this is the one thing that could break him. I do not want to see him get hurt, but on the other hand, as his best friend I feel that it is my place to tell him if I know this. I talked to a guy at work about this and at first he agreed with me, but then as we talked he said maybe I best say nothing, or go tell his wife that I know what she is up too. I am afraid if I tell him what I know, he will not believe me, and possibly become very angry with me for even bringing it up. My buddy is a very proud man, and has the right to be, I think, but not sure what this will do to his spirit. So all, what do you think, do I tell him what I know, and figure what ever happens happens, or do I tell his wife what I know, and tell her to cool it or I will tell her husband? I was going to talk to my girlfriend about it, but her and my buddies wife are close, and she really has no time for people who cheat, so never brought it up with her either. Any thoughts, help, will be much appreciated. Thanks