What’s wrong with moderation? I dip a can a week and have for 20 years. I have control. Took me awhile to do it with alcohol, stopped drinking for effect and just enjoy a couple now. [/quote]
Some people are not capable of moderation in their current state of addiction. When I was an alcoholic, I was absolutely, no doubt about it, totally, 100% incapable of moderation in any sane understanding of the term. Now that I AM able to moderate, you would never hear anyone give me advice suggesting I moderate, because the type of people who can are not the ones that are going to be able to do so.
Just to clarify, my situation with alcohol involved a radical transformation at the deep subconscious level that transformed me from an alcoholic to someone who still enjoys a drink, but in NO WAY resembles the person I was before. As I’ve said before, I have not even been drunk once in four years, though I do enjoy a beer or a nice glass of Knob Creek.
I do not believe our OP has had much luck with moderation, just as I don’t believe many alcoholics are capable of such a thing. [/quote]
Can I ask what you went through or did that enabled you experience this transformation? As a sister of a sibling who is abusing substances its interesting to know what has “healed” other addicts/alcoholics.