For habits that are not strongly connected to a dopamine response (unfortunately both of yours appear to be), I have found that the best way, for me, to completely rid myself of a habit is to NOT quit it. What I do is WRITE DOWN my conviction first to just keep away from the object of my desire for 30 days. Recently I had a terrible addition to Red Bull. Before that Diet Coke. In both cases, I wrote something to the effect of: I will drink only water or juice for the next 30 days. (You should write in the positive, not the negative, so don’t write: I will NOT dip for the next 30 days).
As far as dopamine related addictions, the solution is not always so easy, but, again, it requires first visualizing yourself as someone who would NEVER indulge in such habits.
There are a couple of very, very good threads here about quitting internet porn. I highly recommend you read them. [/quote]
Don’t tell me you cut out caffeine for good!?!?
That would be my vice. TV for sure as well. I’m real good about the TV thing when I live on my own but when there’s other people in the house that watch it all the time it’s hard not to. And when you try to leave the room to be productive somewhere they always try to guilt me and play passive aggressive and tempt me. This is family I’m talking about.
I used to smoke a ton of pot, but when I had a really good reason to quit which is looking for a real job it wasn’t all that hard to stop. It sucked the first few weeks. To be totally honest I still crave it from time to time but it passes fairly quickly at this point. [/quote]
I didn’t cut out caffeine at all, which I’ve never really felt to be a problem of mine, but all the HFCS and the unnecessarily high expense of the Red Bull needed to go.
When from about 17 to 19 or 20 I smoked more weed than Snoop Dog. My best friend and I used to go to his house for lunch, take a bunch of hits off a bong and then stuff our faces before heading back for classes. Then came home after and got high twice more before any given day was over. Pulled all A’s this entire time, but I was getting deeper and deeper into a lifestyle and peer group that was unhealthy, to say the least. One day, we were smoking at some guys apartment and, while high, I had a stunning, almost blinding moment of clarity. I looked at the apartment, the stupid Bob Marley posters on the wall, the brain dead people I was with with the contents of their skulls oozing out of their ears as they vegetated in front of a TV screen, and I have always hated TV, sorry Fletch (^^)v, and I just heard the thought, THIS IS NOT FOR YOU, in my head before feeling the most intense paranoia and agitation of my life. After that moment, I could never again smoke weed without that feeling of paranoia, stress and general unease. It went from my favorite pastime to the most hated feeling I could imagine. After a couple more attempts at getting high, I just quit forever. All my friends, the non-loser ones, I kept hanging out with, and they kept smoking weed, and they just couldn’t understand it. They would offer me read every single time I was around for the first few months or so, and they just couldn’t understand that I just could not even imagine smoking anymore after that. After a while they got used to it and they started to get used to the fact that I could still enjoy myself without being high.
After my moment of clarity with marijuana, I later quit drinking, and the way I quit drinking (which I have explained here a few times) was very very similar to the way in which I quit smoking weed. And also similar to the way in which I quit smoking cigarettes. In every case, it involved pretty much a single moment where I went from intensely desiring thing, to not having any more desire for the thing at all. It was almost an overnight transformation. In cases such as these, I think the first, most important aspect of the quitting process, is that the person who is quitting has to truly, seriously, intensely desire to be free from the slavery of addiction to that drug. Anyone who doesn’t quit an addiction, never reaches this point. This point is the most important point in the process of quitting, and freeing oneself from addiction.[/quote]
Sounds like for you it was a suddle deep shift in something… even having an intuitive voice… very wise… I wish my brother could hopefully find the same soon, on a side note some of your posts indicate to me that you are pretty well connected to something, maybe you are like the buddha and don’t even know it lol [/quote]
One of my biggest “secrets”: Deep, intense, prayer. [/quote]
Which some might say is a variation on deep, intense re-imaging, which I’ve had a bit of success with.[/quote]
They are certainly related. I won’t discourage anyone from anything which helps them free themselves from slavery or achieve a better life.