hey, I’ve been playing for 15 years, classically trained, played pretty much everything you can hit with a stick and every type of music. Practice pads can be boring, but are great for learning technique and rudiments. Check out these books:
Syncopation for the Modern Drummer
by: Ted Reed
by: George Stone
Fundamental Studies for Snare Drum
by: Garwood Whaley
I’ve owned all three since before high school and still go through them once in a while and learn new things.
Once you have the basics of playing the snare drum down, then worry about looking for a kit. It’s a lot easier to learn how to play 1 drum with just two hands than it is to try and learn how to play multiple drums and cymbals with all four limbs.
This link lists a bunch of other books that are all pretty much fantastic. For learning the kit, I’d recommend Gary Chesters “New Breed” it’s a very solid book, one of the first ones I used when I started playing kit.