I’ll give you an excerpt about dealing with your anger, it’s called the Release Technique. Basically it works by forcing yourself to feel the emotion you want to get rid of (in your case, anger), and letting the anger build up and become so intense that you end up seperating yourself from the emotion. Then, you realize how ridiculous the emotion is, and you’re able to just let it go completely.
Here’s the excerpt:
"Lester Levinson found that people have three usual ways of handling
The first way is to suppress the feeling. But suppressed feelings don?t go away - they build up and fester inside, causing anxiety, tension, depression, and a host of stress-related problems. The repressed energy (or ?charge?) thesevsuppressed feelings create eventually drives you to behave in ways you don?t like or understand, and which you cannot control.
The second way is to express the feeling. By ?blowing up? or losing our tempers we relieve the pressure of the accumulated emotions. This can feel good because it puts the feeling into action - but it doesn?t get rid of the feeling, it simply relieves the pressure of it momentarily. Negative emotions may also be unpleasant for the person on the receiving end, which in turn causes more distress and guilt.
The third common way to cope with feelings is by attempting to avoid the issue by attending instead to distractions - by talking, watching TV, eating, smoking, drinking, taking drugs, having sex, etc. But despite our attempts to
escape them, the feelings are still there - and still take their toll in the form of stress.
But there is another option for handling a feeling - you can let go of it: release it, discharge it. This is the healthiest way to handle a feeling that is consuming us. We?ve all had the experience of being in the midst of an emotional explosion and then suddenly beginning to laugh at ourselves, realizing how silly or inappropriate or useless our behavior is.
Step One: Focus. First think of some problem area in life - something that is of great urgency and concern. It may be a relationship with a loved one, a parent or child; it might be your job, health or fears. Or it might simply be the feeling that you are experiencing now.
Step Two: Identify your feeling. Determine your feeling about the problem area, or the current feeling. What do you really feel? - open yourself up, become aware of your physical sensations - what word comes to mind? Determine the purest form of the feeling - for example, if you perform your releasing operations on fear, rather than hesitance or worry, you will find the results are much more dramatic and powerful.
Step Three: Feel your feeling. Let your feeling inhabit your entire body and mind. If the feeling is a grief feeling, you may break into tears; if it is anger, you may feel your blood begin to boil. That?s good - now is the time to feel the feeling.
Step Four: Individuate. Become aware of the difference between yourself, your ?you?, and what that self is feeling. When the feeling is fully experienced and accepted, there will at some point be a clear sensation that your feeling is notyou, so it would be possible to let go of the feeling. If you do not feel that it is possible to let the feeling go, feel it some more. Sooner or later you will reach a point where you can truthfully answer: ?Yes, I could let this feeling go?.
Step Five: Release. When will you let this feeling go? Sooner or later you will be
able to answer: ?I am willing to let this feeling go now?. So let the feeling go, to simply release it, if you haven?t done so spontaneously. It feels good to let it go - all the built-up energy that has been held in the body is released. There is a sudden decrease in physical and nervous tension. You will feel more relaxed, calm, centered.
Step Six: Repeat. Do you still have any of the feeling? If some of it is still there then go through the procedure again. Often releasing is like a well - you release some and then more arises. Some of our pent-up emotions are so deep that they require a number of releases."