[quote] Dante said:
I get very frustrated with the sport of bodybuilding sometimes because its a very self absorbed, self obsessed mentality. Alot of people in this sport will talk about themselves for 45 minutes before asking you a question about yourself (and during that time your answering they are thinking about the next thing to say about themselves again).
I dislike many people in this sport because it makes insecure skinny people into (cocky-but really more insecure) idiots who really think a 20 inch arm means something to that guy they just passed by in the grocery store.
Trust me the guy forgot about you already by the time he got to the next aisle. He really doesnt give a shit-your a meathead to him.
Im not a saint and im not trying to portray one in this post. You have seen me be very impatient and an ass to people online before because theres alot of things in the bbing genre thats really selfish that bothers me a great deal.
Today I was in a restraurant eating with my wife–I noticed a women who was sitting alone eating behind me, looking out the window, with tears in her eyes talking to herself (not loud). Alot of people would look at that lady like she is a nutcase, but you really dont know what has happened to her that got her to that point.
Where would you be if your wife/girlfreind was driving with your family and all of them got crushed by an 18 wheeler and instantly killed? Would you be in a restraurant just devastated looking out the window talking to yourself a month later?
I dont know what happened to that lady, I dont want to know…but I do know it was bad enough that somewhere along the line she broke. I called the waitress over and said “i want to pay for her whole dinner but i just want you to tell her a customer took care of it–dont tell her its me”.
I try to do things like that once a week or whenever I can. Im that guy you see pulling over and changing a tire every once in a while, for someone whose stuck. Im that guy who will tell the 2 homeless guys outside of the restraurant to go in and order dinner and I’ll pay for it.
A waitress that is in one of the restraurants i frequent is such a nice person. One nite when my wife asked what she would like to do career wise…she started telling us proudly "I work 2 jobs and Im trying to be a…
(and then she stopped)(and started to cry) and then said “ive never been quite able to get into position where I can further myself ahead” and excused herself and said “im so sorry to cry in front of you–Im so sorry”…and she walked away in tears…THAT FREAKING CRUSHED ME. The day before xmas I left her 200 dollars in a christmas card for her tip.
What am I trying to relay here? The next time you look in the mirror and your bummed out because you dont feel your big enough, or your arms are weak, or you look fat or whatever…just remember theres a guy/girl with muscular dystrophy in a wheelchair out there who will never know what its like EVER to be loved romantically by someone.
They are just like you and me on the inside with a shell of a body they have no control over. What do you think is going thru their head when that beautiful woman walks by? Do you think they are thinking “oh maybe I have a shot?”
Ive been devastated before and at the lowest of the low many years ago, it was like an atom bomb went off in my life and I had to rebuild everything but the last few years Ive been blessed, finding my wife, and everything I touch turns to gold AND BELIEVE ME I APPRECIATE IT IMMENSELY.
I make the time to try my best to do “random acts of kindness”…it makes me feel good personally even when its anomynous like today.
So I ask of anyone reading this…just try it, make yourself do it, outside of the bodybuilding world, go that extra mile, take that extra step, load that ladies groceries in her car for her, help someone that TRULY needs some help, whatever it is, try to do the right thing at the right time–I promise you good luck will come your way from it eventually. Karma has a way of doing that.
Fantastic guy and I think more people should take this to heart.
It’s the holiday season guys and girls, but remember there are people out there who were dealt a hand of bad cards and might not be able to do all the things we take for granted…