Okay, I would really appreciate feedback on whether you think I am being overly jealous or possessive or whether I should just chill… My boyfriend and I have been going out for just over 3 years and like any relationship it has its ups and downs. We don’t live together He has just moved into a new flat with 4 others. I don’t have an issue with that but what concerns me is that he goes out to pubs with them and I am not invited - mainly because I don’t drink. I trust him and he has never cheated on me (to my knowledge), however he is an attractive guy and girls flirt with him when he is out. It is now getting to the stage where I get really uptight when he goes out without me and it is starting to affect our relationship. I understand that he needs his space and time out with the guys but I just wish that he didn’t have to frequent clubs and pubs to do it.
What has made it worse is that a girl I know tried to hit on him one night when he was out and was all over him and what makes it worse is that she knew he was my boyfriend!! Nothing happended but the worse thing is that he didn’t tell me about it but I found out through another person! This has really damaged my trust and brought to my attention that there are a lot of sleazy girls out there and my man goes out among them!!! Anyway I would like some feedback on whether you think that my feelings of jealousy and anxiety when he goes out without me are normal or whether I am being paranoid and need to trust him and just chill out. He probably only goes out maybe one a week or once a fortnight so it’s not all the time, but when it happens it pisses me off so much that we end up fighting about it. I try to just trust him as he is a great guy and I know that he loves me, but in the back of my mind I just can’t help thinking that despite this he is a guy afterall and a lot of guys would stray if they had the chance. Am I just being paranoid?? Appreciate any comments from guys and girls alike.